Tuesday, February 28, 2012

TMI Tuesday - 2/28

Sex.....and Romance

This week’s TMI Tuesday is about sex and romance. Who doesn’t enjoy a little romance or the art of seduction before engaging in sex? Often times the prelude is better than the actual ‘event’.

1. You are sitting alone in a restaurant because your lunch date is late. Do you:
a) Throw something and then make out with the waiter.
b) Check to make sure he or she didn’t get into an accident, then wait patiently for two hours and use the time to compose a love song or poem.
c) Send a nasty text followed up by a voice mail telling him/her that “romance is dead and so are you!”
d) Wait for 20 minutes, and then text-message a pal to join you for lunch.
First off, I'd never be sitting alone inside a restaurant waiting for someone - I'd far more likely be waiting outside. My expectation would be that if my lunch date were running late, they would have the courtesy to let me know. I don't mind 10-15 minutes late - sometimes something causes you to leave a few minutes late, or the traffic is bad or something - but any more than that and I expect to be contacted somehow. That being said, if there's reasonable explanation and providing I didn't have other commitments later on that would be in jeopardy, I would not be adverse to finding something else to do for an hour or two until my date could make it. I'm very understanding, but I don't like people disrespecting my time or taking me for granted. I strive to be punctual always and I'd expect the same respect for me and my time from my date.

2. What’s more important, a romantic relationship or your career?
I found this a hard question. Both could provide a great deal of satisfaction in one's life and I can certainly find many pros and cons for each side of that coin.

3. You love to role play in the bedroom, which one of these is more likely to be your kink?
a. Doctor and the naughty nurse
b. You’re the gardener, I’m the hoe
c. Persnickety principal and the wayward pupil that needs a spanking
d. Me Tarzan, you Jane
e. Scattered-brain boss and the seductive secretary
I think I'd be totally into d. with a little c. thrown in now and then just to spice things up.

4. When you want sex, who tends to make the first move?
a. Me! I like to go for what I want.
b. It varies. Sometimes my partner/significant other/date or sometimes me.
c. Oh definitely the other person. Even if I want it, I’m not about to admit such a thing.
d. I drop subtle hints hoping he/she will pick up on it.
I think L is an a. while I am a d., though I'm trying to improve on that. Fortunately for me, L is a very astute man and reads my d. like a book.

5. When it comes to lovemaking, select the answer that best describes you/your attitudes
a. vanilla – meets society’s middle of the road standards
b. adventurous
c. kinky
d. trisexual – I will try anything once, twice if I like it, three times to make sure. –Mae West
Well, all four of these play a part in our sex life. Sometimes there are time constraints or it's just been a while since we've been together and things turn out like a., however we are both adventurous and kinky and we do try things more than once, even if we didn't really like it the first time. L reminded me last week that the first time he spanked me, I didn't like it. :P

6. You want to seduce that sexy someone, what is the sweet-nothing that you’ll whisper in his/her ear?
Seduction isn't my forte, but I like "I want to suck your cock". It's to the point and hardly what I'd term a "sweet nothing", but it gets an "ok" every time and leads to so much more!

Bonus: What’s your idea of a romantic getaway?
Anywhere that offers the comfort and privacy we'd want to be able to spend time together combined with the opportunity to get out and do fun things outdoors.

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Friday, February 24, 2012

L's Naughty Picture of the Week, Red Cheeks

I bent her over the edge of the bed and fucked her....

but they were just too close to hand to leave unspanked.

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Tuesday, February 21, 2012

TMI Tuesday - 2/21

You Inspire Me!

As I cruise around the Internet reading my regular blogs and discovering new ones, the content of other bloggers often gives me ideas for TMI Tuesday questions. A few of you did that for me this week. I encourage TMIers to click on the links and read the blog posts that prompted a specific question.

1. List ONE word to describe your last sexual encounter.

2. Can you recall your worst sexual experience? Why was it so awful? Did you do anything at the time to try to make it better?
Inspiration: http://husbandtwomindssexually.blogspot.com/
I guess that would be when I, as a very young newly-married wife told my (considerably older and been around) spouse that I wanted to try anal sex. I was quite sexually adventurous, in spite of my youth and naivete and he was rather prudish and conservative. After much convincing, he agreed. Assuming he knew what he was doing, I did as he told me. He penetrated me with no lube whatsoever, then when I started crying and begging him to stop, he told me it was too late for him to stop and then held me down and continued the brutal onslaught until he came. Then he pulled out and left the room, leaving me traumatized on the bed. He later suggested that in the future, I should be careful what I ask for, because clearly had I not wanted to try something so deviant, I wouldn't be in such pain. It took me nearly 25 years to want to try again - happily, this time with someone caring who knew what he was doing.

3. Do you fuck outside the box?
Inspiration: http://hausofmm.blogspot.com/2011/04/fucking-outside-box.html?
We all have a laundry list of things–features, demographic characteristics, etc. that we like and/prefer in a sexual partner. Do you ever deviate from that list? Give an example.
I do have a certain "type" that I am immediately physically attracted to, but that certainly doesn't mean that I wouldn't consider fucking someone who didn't match those characteristics. L has some of the characteristics I find a draw - he's very tall, has nice hands, a smile that lights up his whole face and is handsome - but he's also blonde-haired, blue-eyed and fair-skinned, which are very outside of my usual preference. The reality is that what's important is not a "type", but your connection to the person in question. That's what really dictates what kind of an experience you're going to have. I'd rather give someone with a connection a chance and not worry about what they look like or if their appearance fits a "type" I'm after - after all, if I were that shallow, I would have missed out on a amazing experience with a wonderful person!

4. Do you blend BDSM in to your relationship? If yes, just in the bedroom or in other areas of your life? Explain.
Yes, L and I do. We enjoy and incorporate many BDSM practices in the bedroom - some of which you read about on our blog - but also outside of the bedroom as well. We are involved in our local BDSM community and like interacting socially with other like-minded people. We love to play with rope, which is very sensual. The D/s mindset finds its way into our verbal and written interactions as well.

5. Does the thought of your partner/significant other having sex with another person turn you on? Would you want to watch the act? Would you like to join in?
I've never been in the position to watch my partner have sex with other people, though he does. I'm not sure I'd enjoy it, to be honest. Though in some ways, I think it would be interesting to watch, I think I might feel a bit awkward and possibly left out. I might be more inclined to be interested if I joined in somehow and was therefore distracted.

Bonus: Fill in the blanks.

I like it lubed on the outside and hard in the middle.

Monday, February 20, 2012

We said: A Change'll Do Ya Good

The disappearance of the Granddaddy of infidelity bloggers in a puff of smoke along with the departure of other bloggers in my blog reading list highlights that blogs are like mushrooms - they pop up from nowhere and often disappear just as quickly. Disappear is perhaps the wrong word, though Granddaddy's blog did vanish. More often the bloggers just stop publishing new content with no explanation. Coming up with a unique view on our banging is often a struggle for me. It's always fun with V but making it fun for the reader can be tough.

We're planning to make some changes to our little blog. After a year and a half of writing about our shenanigans, we kind of feel a bit like our blog posts are getting repetitive and are probably not so entertaining to our readers. Trust me - for every motel afternoon we write about, there are three more we don't write about and for every visit to his workplace after hours that we write about, there are many more that we don't. Then there are many other things we don't - can't - write about, too - things that we've done and places we've gone - that would provide excellent blog fodder, but would be far too risky to share. The preservation of the relationship always takes precedence to us over the needs of the blog. The main tenets of our relationship are to experiment and push the boundaries of our sexuality and to have fun. Of course, we have other raison d'ĂȘtre, but those I mention are the primary ones that feed the blog. It seemed counterproductive to our relationship to be always with an eye to what's blog-worthy, since we were committed to posting weekly.

We are posting about similar scenarios all the time, though - lunchtime fun, after work fun and kinky fun with the odd visit to the track or a kinky party thrown in. Don't get me wrong - when L and I are together, things are not the least bit bromidic. The words kind, thoughtful, attentive and creative describe L as both a person and a lover. No matter what we're doing or where we're going - sexual or otherwise - there has never been a minute of time that I have spent with him where I didn't feel happy to be with him and I think I can safely speak for us both when I say that we greatly enjoy being together. We do wonder, however, how many times you can read about us having sex and still be entertained by it. How many different adjectives can be used to describe the pleasure he gives me? How many different ways can I explain how I try (and I hope, succeed) to make him feel cared for and appreciated, as he makes me feel? In other words, we are not bored, but we think you might be!

Our blog has had a very narrow view - a very specific purpose - and that has been to document our dalliances. We think we need to pull back a bit and capture a broader view. The changes at this point are not vast. What we propose to do is to continue to post L's Naughty Picture of the Week on Fridays, as well as participate in the TMI meme weekly on Tuesdays. We will also continue to answer any Formspring questions that come our way as candidly as we are able, though we have received very few of those. Although we have also decided to continue to post stories of our sexploits, after today they will not be appearing each and every Monday as they have always been. We will instead be posting stories as new boundaries are pushed and as things happen that we consider blog-worthy. We also hope to be able to introduce some new features that we have in the works.

We're not going away, though. I can wholeheartedly say that I have really enjoyed writing. It's something I had never done prior to the start up of this blog and am happy to have the outlet it allows. It's often quite difficult to be so happy about things with L and to not be able to share that joy with the people around you. This blog allows me to share just a bit of that joy with you, our readers and I thank you for reading and for the comments you share.

We'd welcome your feedback about our planned changes and any ideas you may have, things you'd like to read about or anything else you'd like to see here. We'll certainly consider any suggestions you have to spice things up and make them more interesting to you! Oh, and if you're reading, Granddaddy - we miss you!

Friday, February 17, 2012

L's Naughty Picture of the Week, Some Hair in the Hand...

When I pulled V's hair her response was "Harder" - What's a guy to do?

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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

TMI Tuesday - 2/14

Whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day or think it’s a consumer-oriented, manipulative and shallow interpretation of romance, just have yourself some fun by answering these TMI Tuesday questions.

1. Cupid is the god of desire, affection, and erotic love. As the myth goes, a person who is shot by Cupid’s arrow is filled with uncontrollable desire. On your behalf, who would you like Cupid to shoot?
I honestly can't think of anyone I'd want Cupid to shoot on my behalf, thank you very much.

2. Earlier in the evening you had dinner at the Fook Yue Chinese Restaurant. You are feeling quite amorous. You open a fortune cookie in the bedroom. Three fortunes appear:
1- “Your patience will be rewarded.” What would you like that reward to be?
Well, I'm in the bedroom, aren't I? My patience through dinner paid off!
2- “Try something new.” What is the something new you want to try?
A new sex position, of course. There are one or two that I wouldn't mind giving a go.
3- ” ’tis better to give than receive.” What would you like to give?
A full body massage.

3. If you were to write a special Valentine message (e.g., card, letter, etc.) what is that message?
I don't know - depends a ton on my mood.

4. Are you doing something special for Valentine’s day or is it just another day?
Valentine's Day is just another day for me. I've always been of the opinion that the people I love should be clear on that all year long and therefore it shouldn't be necessary for me to spend ridiculous amounts of money to show it. In my opinion, a simple card is sufficient, if we want to mark the day. Besides, I'm not much of a flower person, don't really care for chocolate and don't need any more "things" in my life.

5. You must give chocolate to your secret Valentine for Valentine’s Day. The chocolate is in the shape of your what?
I've bought L chocolate boobs several times. I think it's cute to watch him bite into them - and he seems to enjoy them!

You can make your own valentine heart candy. What is your message? (Go to this link. Create your candy. Post the generated Valentine candy on your blog).

I liked this - how cute!

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Monday, February 13, 2012

He said: A Little Bit Off the Top

When chatting with V I realized that she was in a a blue mood. Usually a few hugs and kisses will set her right so I offered to meet her at our favourite electronics store later that day. V is a bit of a gear head so even browsing the aisles of the electronics store will perk her up. When I arrived she was already waiting so we went inside and bought a few items then headed outside into the night. V asked if I wanted to go with her in her car so off we went to a secluded parking lot that we had visited in the past.

We hugged and kissed for a few minutes before V asked it I wanted her to suck my cock. How could I say no? V loves my hard cock in her mouth so I opened my pants and freed my cock from my underwear. V leaned over and took the head of my cock into her mouth. V usually takes as much in as she can but this time she was bobbing up and down with just the head in her mouth. At first I thought she was trying a new oral sex technique but it soon dawned on me that her fancy rental car was the cause of the change. The wide console and deep bucket seats meant she was stretched as far as she could and couldn't get any lower. V, always the trouper didn't complain, she simply redoubled her efforts to make me cum, using her hand to play with my balls. I did my best to scan the area for cars and people so we wouldn't disturbed. This distraction made V's task even more difficult because of my divided attentions but her magic mouth soon had me cumming. A quick cuddle and kiss and V took me back to my car.The spring was back in her step and there was a smile on her face as we exchanged a quick and hug and kiss before we went on our ways.

She said: Head Job

I was in a foul mood. It doesn't happen very often - I'm usually a very good-natured and even-tempered person (I think), but for several reasons - short of sleep and a need for sex, among others - I was not in a good mood on this day. I was chatting with L and as usual, he picked up on my dark mood right away. He asked if I were okay and also if he had done something to upset me. Of course, that made me feel bad - it's not fair for me to inflict my bad mood on other people. I told him I was just tired and horny and busy at work....and that I really needed a hug.

L suggested that though he couldn't do anything to help with the former three at the moment, he could certainly remedy the latter. He was going out that evening, but he offered leave a bit earlier to meet up with me prior for some hugs and kisses. That perked me up considerably and I looked forward to seeing him that evening. We met up in the parking lot of our favourite electronics store. I arrived first and was working on some drawings of a new tattoo I'm planning on when he pulled up. We went inside and started checking out some items we each wanted to look at. We wandered around for a short while, then took our purchases up to the cash desk to pay.

We each deposited our purchases in our cars, then I invited L to join me in the rental car I was driving to go for a ride. Familiar with the area since I used to work there a long time ago, I drove straight for a nearby industrial area and pulled into a parking lot. It was well-lit, yes, but it was large and there were hardly any cars in it, so it would work to park well away from the building but yet be easy to keep watch.

We took off our seat belts and leaned toward each other. I buried my face in his neck and he hugged me and kissed my forehead. I pulled back and raised my lips to his for a kiss. We kissed and hugged for a couple of minutes before I whispered that I'd like to suck his cock.

The rental car was clearly not one I would purchase, given the choice. It had bucket seats and a huge console running between the two front seats and splitting at the dashboard. Very space capsule. Very comfortable. Not so good for cock sucking and since I do a lot of cock sucking, it certainly has to be a consideration when I purchase a car!

I leaned over the console as L unzipped and released his cock. I took him in my mouth eagerly and tried to adjust myself, but no matter how I tried, I could only take a small bit of his cock into my mouth - not much more than the head. I squirmed to try and get closer and because I was in such an uncomfortable position, my neck started killing me. Pressing my toes into the floor, I tried to lean even farther over and I was determined not to stop - I wanted L to cum. I licked and sucked the head of his cock, swirling my tongue around the ridge and using my lips and tongue to stimulate his frenulum.

I was doing the best I could under the circumstances, but I still felt as though he might not be getting enough stimulation. He did seem to be enjoying however and when he did eventually cum in my mouth, it was such a huge mouthful I had to stop to swallow twice before continuing to gently suck and clean him up. I sat up and said, "Wow, that was quite a mouthful, Mister!"

My neck was not feeling that great, but I bounced back quickly and soon we were on our way back to the electronics store and L's car. After a big hug and a kiss - this time outside of the car - we said goodbye and each went on our way. I felt much lighter now. A big smile on my face, I put the car in gear and left.

Friday, February 10, 2012

L's Naughty Picture of the Week, Peek a Boo Nipple

Peeking at V under the covers, I realized we're going to have an early spring!

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Tuesday, February 7, 2012

TMI Tuesday - 2/7

Let's Go To Bed!

TMI Tuesday this week was submitted by My Undercover Metamorphosis. Thank you! Show her some love, stop by her blog and say hello.

1. A friend is coming to have sex. There are 3 twin beds and an air mattress in the room. What do you do? (choose one)
a. Have sex where ever we land first, who needs a bed?
b. Have sex on a single twin mattress
c. Have sex on an air mattress
d. Or? (tell us your solution)

L and I do just great without a bed, but on the occasion that we do have one, it's like a treat. In this case, we'd have not one bed, but three! I'd be scared of blowing out the air mattress, so my plan would be to have sex on one of the twin beds, move to the second one for round two and avoid those wet spots by sleeping in the third one. Very cozy for two!

2. What is the oddest thing you have in your bedroom that someone would be surprised to find. Why is it there?

I guess that depends on who the finder is! For me - and likely for you - there's nothing odd in there at all. Yet there are those in my household that would definitely find the sex toys, the corsets, sexy costumes and the collection of high heels rather odd - and they'd be right to wonder!

3. What are your favorite sheets?
a. Flannel
b. Cotton
c. T-shirt cotton (jersey)
d. Satin

Flannel in the winter and crisp, cool cotton in the summer. I hate satin sheets - too slippery.

4. Do you sleep with sheets tucked in or out? Why?

Never tucked in. I hate, hate, hate to be restricted. In fact, even as a kid I always refused to wear pajama pants to bed for the same reason.

5. What is your usual bedtime? Why?
a. 8-10 pm
b. 10-12 midnight
c. 12-24
d. Whenever my eyes won’t stay open any longer.

Usually until my eyes won't stay open any longer - which isn't as bad as it sounds. lol

5. Do you sleep with closet door(s) shut or open? Bedroom door shut or open? Any particular reason why?

Both shut. Closet door is shut because leaving it open to me is like leaving a drawer open. Bedroom door is closed because I sleep naked. Hopefully the closed door will indicate that the entrant should knock first, but if not, I'm a fairly light sleeper, so I'll hear the door immediately and it will give me a moment to collect myself as they barge in.

6. Have you ever broken a bed or other furniture during sex?

Nope, not yet, though we have changed positions because we didn't like the creaking noise the bed was making. Sounded ominous...

7. What’s your favorite type of bed for sex?

King size and comfortable. Not so soft that you'd sink into it...that's too hard on my hips when I'm playing cowgirl.

8. What do you sleep in?
a. Lingerie
b. Underwear
c. Day clothes
d. T-shirt
e. Nothing

Nothing at all - except if I have bruises to hide, then I'd wear a short nightie.

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Monday, February 6, 2012

We said: Midwinter Lunch Break

L: We thought you might be getting bored reading about our sexual escapades so we decided to do a sex free post for a change.

V: Sex boring? Sex with L is never boring, but I can understand what he means - I'm sure reading about even the hottest of our encounters could become boring to our readers week after week. On with our sex-free story:

L and I were chatting online one day recently, working out which day that week would work best, based on our schedules, to have lunch together. Our time is much more restricted these days. We only have so many opportunities to meet up with each other weekly for play time - and if something happens to mess with those arrangements, then we don't get to play at all. Thankfully, lunch is a little more flexible, or some weeks, we wouldn't get to see each other at all.
We chose to meet the following day and I asked L for ideas of what he would like to eat. The weather here now is so mild, I was excited when L suggested we cook our own lunch outdoors.
I've never been camping, exactly - I've never slept outdoors or even been in a tent, for that matter. I am, however, from a small third-world country and certainly have some experience with "roughing it" - I'm not really bothered by dirt, bugs and those sorts of things. I'm fine with making the best of my surroundings. I also love to cook and really enjoy the times when I'm able to cook for L. So to expand my cooking chops, I was very excited with the idea of cooking outdoors over a camp stove. We've done it a couple times previously - once I made omelets and the other time, L cooked for me and made bacon sandwiches.

L: I've camped a lot so I have all the required gear, stoves and pans and the like so V didn't have to bring her good equipment out into the wild.

V: Yes - so I told L he could bring the stove and pots and I'd bring the food. We threw ideas back and forth about what to make. Of course, it would have to be something fairly quick and simple - it was our lunch break after all. Quesadillas were suggested, but eventually we decided on grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup. Okay, so that's not really cooking in my books, but it was still great fun to plan the meal and prepare it outdoors.

L: V is always super organized and had two bags of food and gear with her. We decided not to carry everything all the way to the picnic shelter we had used previously, since there was very little chance of rain. We came across an unsheltered picnic area closer to the entrance and decided to set up there.

V: I was kind of glad for that, to be honest. It was fairly wet and muddy, so I was a bit worried thinking about the big hill we'd have to go down to get to the sheltered area. It wouldn't be too great to be sliding down the mud hill on my ass with our gear spread all over the hill by my flailing hands!

L fueled the stove and got it the burners lit while I set up the soup in a pot and the sandwiches in a frying pan. Once ready, I put the food on to heat. We eat outdoors a lot, so I actually have quite a bit of picnic gear that we use regularly. I pulled out bowls, plates, spoons, napkins, wipes, etc., pausing in between to flip over the sandwiches. I kept checking the soup every couple of minutes - since I had mixed it with milk and knew it would boil over if we weren't careful.

L: It was colder than I expected, I guess I should have been thankful that there isn't two feet of snow on the ground. I did wear my winter boots and a hat so I was pretty warm. V was in running shoes and even though she is usually averse to wearing mittens, she wore a pair on this day.

V: Yeah - I thought he'd kick my butt if I didn't dress warmly. lol All the little details looked after, L and I stood chatting by the stove, sharing a brief peck or a hand squeeze now and then. Suddenly I heard a hiss and I moved quickly, realizing the soup was, indeed, boiling over. I grabbed the entire pot off the burner quickly to minimize the mess. I replaced it with a second pot full of what would soon be hot chocolate. The sandwiches were also ready, so I poured out the soup into the bowls and cut the sandwiches and we sat across from each other and ate. It was pretty cold out and it's hard to cook and do things with mittens on - one of the reasons I loathe them - so my hands were freezing and I was happy for the hot bowl of soup to warm them up a bit. Grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup never tasted so good!

L: It was funny that it was probably less than two minutes after V checked the soup and said she was watching it carefully that it boiled over. Good thing my stove already looks like it has survived a war, a little bit of spilled soup didn't make much of a difference.

V: True, though I did clean it up for you at the end anyway. Earlier in the day, I had made some dessert - something like a sticky toffee pudding - and we had that while we sipped our hot chocolate and it was very yummy indeed. The chocolate was actually too hot to drink except the tiniest of sips, so while it cooled a bit, I used a bottle of water to wash out the pots and frying pan and then started to pack away everything into three bags - one for dirty items, one for garbage and one for everything else. While I did that, L packed up the stove and carried it back to the car and then came back to help me carry the remaining bags.

L: Strangely though we had seem numerous dog walkers on our previous rainy day outing there were none around this time out.

V: You're right! I didn't see another soul while we were there. I didn't see our coyote friend either! An hour and fifteen minutes after I had picked him up, I dropped L back to work. As always, I'd had a great time with L. He's a very outdoorsy guy and while I have mostly been an indoor gal, I'm finding I truly enjoy getting outside and doing outdoor things - and not just when it's warm either! Dressing warmly makes all the difference!

L: When I returned to my car that evening I was reminded of the day by the smell of camp fuel. I guess I hadn't got the lids on the stove fuel tank and fuel can as tightly as I thought. Nothing driving with the window open for a few minutes wouldn't fix.

Friday, February 3, 2012

L's Naughty Picture of the Week, A Bruise, Let Me Kiss it Better

If V has an "ass of steel", then for sure she has boobs like ripe peaches - easily bruised. This picture (of just a small portion of the bruise) was taken two weeks after that squeeze was inflicted and the bruising was just finally starting to fade. I know that makes me sound like a ham-fisted ogre, but seriously, I didn't squeeze that hard!

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