Tuesday, November 20, 2012

TMI Tuesday - 11/20

Movember Wrap Up

This time, to switch it up a bit, I interviewed L - and threw in my own two cents along the way.
1. When is the last time you or your loved one had their prostate checked?
L said, "I last had my prostate checked at my annual physical a few months ago."

2. Besides a medical professional, how many other people have had their finger up your ass?
When asked this question, L responded to ask if he counted.  Pointing out that the question said "other people", so probably not, his response is "one" - I guess that's me!  My answer would be the same, except it would also include medical professionals.

3. Have you ever given or received a prostate massage? Did you like it? Did you cum or orgasm?
I can vouch that L has had a prostate massage and I don't think he much liked it, but let's see what he had to say.  When asked, L responded, "Yes - and it was okay...but no, I did not cum or orgasm."

4. Do you enjoy anal play–rimming, fingering, penetration, etc.?
I do enjoy anal play, having experienced fingering and penetration. L has experienced all three and says that while he is positive toward ass play in general, he feels that more experience is required before he can fully make up his mind. 

5. Ever had anal sex?
A. No, and I don’t want to.
B. No, but I am dying to try it.
C. Yes, but it is just okay.
D. Yes, love it…can’t get enough of it.
E. That’s the way I like it. Anal sex is the best sex.

L and I both enjoy anal sex.  L chose option C.  I'll choose C also, but really the answer is something between C and D.  I think it's better than "just okay", but perhaps not to the extent that I "can't get enough of it".

6. You are about to have anal sex, which method would you choose (You must choose one.):
A. Finger up the ass
B. Prostate stimulator/
C. Penis–real or strap-on
While I would choose C - and L's penis - every time, L's choice here would be A.


Friday, November 16, 2012


Good to the last drop

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Tuesday, November 13, 2012

TMI Tuesday - 11/13

20121112-090524.jpgHello my fellow TMI Tuesday junkies. Movember is in full-swing. I can’t wait to see those Mo’s a little later in the month. In the meantime here is a set of VERY fine TMI Tuesday questions from longtime blogger and frequent TMI Tuesday question contributor virtualsin.wordpress.com

If you don’t know what Movember is all about see previous TMI Tuesday posts or click here.

20121112-084724.jpg1. Some men who have been treated for Prostate Cancer are unable to get an erection. If they were treated with surgery, the usual reason is nerve damage. They may have success with a penis pump. Have you (or your partner) ever used a pump? Did it work? Was it a turn-on or a turn-off?

No, thankfully I've never had a partner treated for prostate cancer.  The pump is an interesting device.  I have no idea if they work or not, but if they did, then I don't think they would be a turn-off.  I'd think that if you're in a great relationship, it's about the journey and not the destination.  Working together to do the things you want to do is never a bad thing and I'm sure that with patience and understanding, things could work out just fine - and it might also draw you closer to each other.

2. If they were treated with radiation, the usual reason [for the erectile dysfunction] is damage to blood vessels. They may have good luck with Viagra or or one of the other impotence meds. Have you (or your partner) ever used Viagra, Cialis, or similar? Did it work? Any interesting side effects? Any 4-hour erections? Tell us how you made use of that ;-)
I have no exposure to my partner using Viagra or any other medications to achieve erection.  Having read this question to L however, he's suggested that he now knows what he'd like for Christmas!
3. Some men may opt for a penile implant. See http://www.urologicalcare.com/advanced-ed-treatments/types-penile-implants/. Do you have experience with a penile implant (as owner or lover-of-owner)? Did it work for you?
Again, no exposure to a partner with a penile implant.

4. If they were treated with hormone therapy (e.g. Lupron Depot), they may also lose all libido. I can’t think of a good question, but if you have a story, please share.
No story, but I think it's a difficult thing when one partner loses all libido.  It is critical, but not easy to maintain the intimacy between you, even if it doesn't include sex as you once knew it.  It's important to evolve and expand your repertoire together to accommodate changes in capabilities and desires and to find things to do together to fill the gaps and maintain that connection between you.

5. Some men diagnosed with Prostate Cancer change their diet or avoid certain foods. Did you ever change your diet for health reasons? How did it work out? How long did you stay on the diet?
Not for prostate-related reasons obviously, but I've changed my diet for other health reasons a number of years ago.  I've been able to maintain that eating plan and it has worked out well - my health has greatly improved because of it.

6. The prostate is a sexual organ, and treatment of the prostate changes the sexual experience. A man who has had his prostate removed does not ejaculate at orgasm. How would you react to a total lack of cum?
I've only ever felt inclined to taste one man's cum (L's), but I liked it. In spite of that, if L had a problem and was unable to ejaculate, I don't think it would make that much difference to me.  I think it's important to be flexible and understanding of each others' issues and when you are, things just work out.  As long as he still enjoys the act of having sex and we can share that enjoyment, then life goes on. 

7. Although removal of the prostate reduces the intensity of orgasm in the pelvic region, some men report orgasmic feelings in other parts of the body, some describing a “whole body orgasm.” How cool is that?
That is cool...and seems only fair.  If someone has to go through the experience of dealing with prostate cancer and all the life-changing difficulties that go with it, it seems to me that they deserve to have such a positive side effect of all that treatment!

8. Do you think a man treated for Prostate Cancer deserves a blow job? If yes, please email Virtual Sin aka SinnerMan…
Very cute, SinnerMan!  Unfortunately, I'm not in a position to email you to set something up, but I can say that every man - prostate cancer survivor or not - deserves to have someone to perform cock worship and give them mind-blowing blow jobs on a regular basis.

Friday, November 9, 2012

L's NPOTW - Hair Tie

I got very turned on when I realized I could tie V's hair - I had always thought it would be too short, but that's only because the curls make it look far shorter than it really is. So the first chance we had some alone rope time I gave it a try. Here is the result.
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Tuesday, November 6, 2012

TMI Tuesday - 11/6

During November each year, Movember is responsible for the sprouting of moustaches on thousands of men’s faces around the world. With their Mo’s, these men raise vital awareness and funds for men’s health issues, specifically prostate and testicular cancer initiatives. 

This week the questions, from heelsnstocking.blogspot.com, have a moustache theme and a request for you to join in, even if it’s just a little self checking.

1. Ladies…Have you ever kissed a man with a moustache? Did you like it?
Yes, I have.  Two of them are never without a moustache.  L, normally clean shaven (or with a sexy bit of stubble) is a regular Movember participant, so I have also had the opportunity to kiss his moustachioed face many times.  I don't mind the little extra tickle at all!

2. They say ‘putting on the beard’ means going down on a lady with a full bush. Do you prefer a bearded, trimmed or bald pussy?
I myself haven't had a full bush for more than 15 years.  I definitely prefer bald for myself - in fact I've been bald for so long I hate to feel even the smallest amount of fuzz!  Since I've never been muff-diving, I decided to ask L for his opinion.  His response: "Bald is my favourite!".  Works for me!

3. What’s your preferred style of ‘tashing on’? (snogging)
Is "lots" a style?  lol  Seriously I just really love kissing...long sensuous ones where tongues tangle, short sippy open mouthed ones, ones with bites, quick smooches and I even love leaning over or reaching up and kissing L on the cheek (which I do all the time).

4. When was the last time you cupped yours or anyone else’s testicles?
Why, I did this just yesterday!  A lovely pair, I must say!

5. If you had a moustache what style would you be and why? Images for styles here.
I like them all.  The 'undercover brother' is the style I'm most familiar with in my life, but I do know two guys that have the 'wisp' and it's pretty hot!  A few months ago I saw a man with waxed handlebars and I thought that was pretty cool too!
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Monday, November 5, 2012

He said: Curses, Foiled Again!

Who wouldn't want to have a pedicure in the woods while drinking wine? The natural followup would usually be a quick fuck or blowjob on the blanket. That would be unless your secret spot in the woods becomes a superhighway for dog walkers. It was just a good thing we heard their voices before either one or both of us had our pants around our ankles or naked asses exposed to the breeze. Our outdoor adventures have not been without incident so we have naturally become a bit skittish about being discovered in a compromising position  Scratch one opportunity for an outdoor naughty time.

We should have known that when the weather was so nice so late in the season that something would go wrong. How about a park full of kids and a fire truck? Who would have thought on the last good day before winter that instead of the park being locked up tight as expected that the gate would be wide open and full of school buses and cars. The blue flags marking the trail a few feet away from our secret picnic spot and the trampled down grass were additional confirmation that hanky panky would be a distinctly bad idea.

Not too much to add.  Lest you think that these days were terrible disappointments nothing could be further from the truth. V and I had a nice lunch with wine both times, all that was missing was the proverbial icing on the cake. I also managed to get a nice picture of my feet soaking as I waited for my pedicure.

She said: Twice Thwarted and Plans Aborted

Not sure if you've ever noticed from our pictures, but my feet are always well looked after.  I get a pedicure every three weeks - heels scrubbed, legs massaged and nails trimmed and polished -  sometimes plainly, but more often decorated by hand with sweeping designs or flowers and sometimes even little jewels. Even as a young mom when I didn't have the time or disposable income to worry about pedicures, I still looked after them regularly and kept them looking good.

By comparison, I think most men don't give a fig about what their feet look like.  Their idea of trimming their toenails is having them lopped off when they stub them on a piece of furniture.  Okay, I'm exaggerating...L, for one, isn't really that bad, but while he certainly does trim his toenails, it is not perhaps as regular an event as it should be.  A few years ago nearing L's birthday, I wanted to treat him to a pedicure as part of his birthday gift.  I learned a long time ago that L really enjoys being pampered sometimes and I suspected that once he got by the stigma of it being a "woman thing" that he'd actually really enjoy it.  I confided in my esthetician about him.

She is really great and as a result I have directed a fair amount of business her way, including several of my close family members.  I wanted to take L there for a pedicure, but I wanted to be sure first that she was comfortable with that situation.  I knew she'd keep my secret when I told her, but it's one thing to not repeat my story to others and quite another to be complicit by meeting and interacting with him.  She was fine with it though, and I was able to take L there and I sat and kept them company while he had his feet done.  Although he did enjoy it and said he'd go again, I did kind of sense that he felt that a lot of the steps were unnecessary for him.  He just really wanted someone to cut his nails. 

Recently, L asked me how much I pay to have a pedicure done.  After answering, I asked if he was interested in going again.  He seemed a bit undecided, so I asked if he'd like me to cut his nails for him.  He thought that it would be impractical, given the limitations of our relationship, but I thought we could easily do this in the park and it would work out just fine.  I explained what I had in mind and he agreed it sounded doable, so we made a date to have a lunch and pedicure session.

The day came and I packed up the items I thought I'd need - a basin, a flask of boiling water, a jug of warm water, a towel and some implements like clippers, cuticle pusher, file, etc.  It had been raining overnight, so after hiking to our secret spot - a small clearing that's a pretty out of the way - I spread a tarp on the ground and then our blanket on top of it.  L sat in a lawn chair and I prepared the water, mixing the warm and the hot until it was comfortable for him.  Then I handed him a bottle of wine to open while I organized some (very yummy!) sandwiches I had prepared.  We sat - he in the chair and me on the ground at his feet - and chatted, ate and sipped at our wine while he soaked.

When I finished eating, I cleared up and sat the towel on my lap and took one foot out of the water.  I clipped his toenails, pushed back and trimmed his cuticles, filed his nails and in no time, his foot was looking exponentially better than when we started.  Before starting on the next foot, I got some lotion and massaged from his calves down to his toes.  Doing the same for the other foot, I had just finished clipping his nails when we heard voices.  We've been to this spot many times, fucked there, given blow jobs there and never once had we run across anyone before.  We looked at each other in surprise, then tried to arrange things so it didn't look so strange.  We were talking quietly as a young couple and a little dog rounded the corner into our clearing.

We stopped, smiled and said hello as they passed through and into the path on the opposite side.  We declined to pick up where we left off right away as we knew they'd be back.  We'd scoped out this area pretty thoroughly, so we knew the path was too overgrown to go anywhere after you passed through to the other side.  The way they came in was the only way back out.  Not too long after, they came through again we smiled knowingly as they explained that they couldn't get through.  Once their voices had faded into the distance, I finished up with L's feet.  He put his shoes and socks back on and disposed of the soaking water while I packed up my implements.  I wanted to give him a blow job to tide him over until we were together again, but we both felt a little leary, wondering who would next be coming down the path.

A couple weeks later, we had a single day of fantastic weather in between many, many wet and dreary ones so we decided to take advantage of that glorious day and have another picnic - probably our last for the year.  Being my usual needy self, I was dying to get laid and L thought we might be able to squeeze one in while we were there.  We arrived at the same park to a bit of a surprise.  The main gates which had closed at Thanksgiving in early October and wouldn't reopen until spring were wide open and the park was a hive of activity. Cars, school buses, kids and adults packed the park.

We drove into the park, right down to the end of the long winding road and everywhere was full of cars and people.  It appeared there was a cross country running meet going on with multiple schools.  We decided to go back to the entrance and park there and hike in past the gates as originally planned.  As we approached our spot, we could see the grass had been trampled down considerably.  Between that clue and a few red flags planted in the ground we realized that the path for the runners passed uncomfortably close to our clearing.  With no leaves on the trees by this time, we certainly couldn't count on not being seen.

L had bought veal sandwiches and I brought some wine.  We put down a tarp and then our blanket, shed our light jackets in the warmth of the sun and sat together and ate our sandwiches and drank our wine.  Once we cleared away the food, L lay on his side propped on his elbow and I lay beside him on my stomach, with my arms folded in front of me to pillow my head and we chatted as he stroked and caressed my back.  Normally, our spot is very quiet and we enjoy the sounds of the forest - the calls of the birds, small animals scurrying through the undergrowth, etc., however this day, the sounds of school buses and cars drowned out the forest sounds.  At one point, an ambulance and fire truck even went down into the park and we wondered aloud what might have happened to require emergency services.

Alas, with so much activity (and children!) in the park, we were once again forced to behave.  Although sometimes things don't work out the way we planned, we still seem to be able to make the best of our time and enjoy each others' company.  So, although physical needs were not met those days, mental needs certainly were and both times, as I drove home after dropping L back to work, I reflected on how fortunate I was to have share yet another lovely picnic with him.

Friday, November 2, 2012

L's NPOTW - Autumn Leaves

Our first picture - just starting to change
What a Difference!

What a difference two weeks makes.  The days changed very quickly.  The first picture on the left was taken when the days were still warm, though with an unmistakeable coolness in the breeze and the nights were chilly.  A couple days after, the warm days said goodbye and it started to become much cooler.  Day after day we've had rain, dreary skies and weather that was very chilly indeed!

The following week

All gone and ready for winter!

Between then and now, there have been exactly two days in between that have been glorious. Relatively warm with sunshine and beautiful skies.  Each of those times, we have had the opportunity to visit our "secret spot" - the little hard-to-find clearing we've told you about.  The second week, V remarked how changed the tree in the clearing was just from the week before.  The third week we went, she was sad to see that the leaves were already all gone.

Autumn is a season followed immediately by looking forward to spring!
                                                                                       ~Sir Francis Bacon

V being camera shy in the woods

Here's the naughty bit: 

Save a tree - eat a beaver!

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