This week’s TMI Tuesday questions were created by an anonymous blogger and lurker. He has submitted four great sets of questions and this week’s theme– THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY– is no exception. Thank you Anonymous#1
1. What made the best sex partner you’ve ever had so good?
He pays attention to my body and my reactions and takes the time to learn what I like and goes out of his way to make things special for me. He's experimental and willing to try new things. Sometimes, they are not the most comfortable things for him, but we talk about the concerns and work out in advance what the problem areas are and how we'll deal with them. He is open and easy to talk to about anything at all that's on my mind and is never judgemental. I do my best to reciprocate in all these areas and it fosters an incredible amount of trust and intimacy between us, which in turn makes for some incredibly fantastic sexual encounters.
2. What made the worst sex partner you’ve ever had so bad?
Wow...where to start? He was a virgin with a very, very small penis (smallest I've ever since before or since). Those things alone are not so bad, but there's more. We had not known each other for very long and he was really doing everything possible to pressure me into bed. I finally gave in when I should not have. There was no connection with him on my side, but clearly he was besotted, pledging his undying love to me and indicating he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me during the act. Completely turned off at this point, I was anxiously waiting for it to be over, which it soon was. Then he threw up moments later. Seriously, you can't make this stuff up, folks!
3. Who was the most physically attractive person you ever had sex with?
Including the young man mentioned in #2, all the men I've had sex with (that sounds like there have been hordes, but my number is pretty low - can be counted on one hand) are physically attractive to me in their own way. Excluding the young man in #2, I have been lucky that they have all been better than average sexually. They haven't always been exemplary human beings, however.
4. How was it?
5. Who was the least physically attractive person you ever had sex with?
As mentioned in #3, all of the men I've had sex with have been physically attractive to me in one way or another. I'm having trouble thinking of any of them as being the "least" attractive of the bunch. To me, far more important than physical attraction is mental connection. I think that even a generally unattractive man with whom I have a great connection would have qualities that I'd find physically attractive. There is always something that works for me in a big way or they wouldn't be in my bed in the first place.
6. Why did you do it?
I don't have sex with people because they are attractive, but rather because we have a special connection. This is always (and yes, #2 was the only exception to this) what works for me.
7. How was it?
Sex is mostly mental, so if I'm present and connected to the person, then the sex will usually be pretty great!
Bonus: Describe a bad sexual experience you admit was your fault.
I can only think of two bad sexual experiences I've had. One was definitely not my fault and I was completely not in control in that situation. The other, which is far less "bad" was as described in #2 - I should never have caved.