Pain and Pleasure
1. Which do you enjoy more in bed, pain or pleasure?I enjoy experimenting with pain, but I enjoy pleasure more, by far.
2. Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?
I am not ticklish at all. L didn't believe me at first and has tried a few times to elicit a response, but I truly am not ticklish. Neither is he!
3. Have you ever used feathers during sex?
We have tried sensation play once or twice, but thinking about it now, it's always been me experimenting on L. I think I would like the way a feather feels on my body.
4. Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why?
I've been blindfolded during play many times, but never during the actual act of penetrative sex. I think I enjoy watching L too much to want to be blindfolded.
5. Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?
Yes! On my way to play with L one evening, I showed up with both a tea and a cold fountain drink. I emptied the drink, retaining the ice and changed the temp of my tongue by sipping tea or sucking on ice. Since our play area is makeshift, we have to be creative sometimes!
6. Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?
I have spanked L and while it's fun, it really doesn't do much for me sexually. When roles are reversed, however, that's a different story. He spanks me just a few times and I'm almost dripping, I'm so wet.
7. Do you have a safeword? Have you ever used it?
We do have safewords. Nothing exciting, like 'hippopotamus'. We just use 'yellow' to signify that I'm getting close to my maximum tolerance and if he wants to keep playing, he has to ease off a bit....and 'red' to stop immediately. I'm a bit (okay, maybe more than a bit) stubborn though, so I rarely - if ever - have safeworded.
Bonus: Tell us in 3-4 sentences the most painful or pleasurable sexual experience you have had.
I sat mulling over this question for a long time. I think ones perception of pain fades with time. I seriously cannot think of any particular time where the pain L has inflicted during a sexual experience has been more than I could tolerate. He has a knack for reading me so well that it seems he always stops just short. Similarly, I can't think of a particular sexual experience that was more pleasurable than any of the others. I think we have something very special and no matter what we do, I have never gone home from one of our encounters feeling anything less than happy and deliciously sated. All of our encounters are highly pleasurable!
Now that you mention it, neither of us has ever been blindfolded during penetrative sex either. Just foreplay. And like you, it's probably because we each like watching the other too much.
ReplyDeleteWe've never used a safeword, but it seems like "yellow" and "red" are very common-sense ideas that clearly get your point across.