Tuesday, August 28, 2012

TMI Tuesday - 8/28

This week’s TMI Tuesday questions are about gettin’ off. When you need it, you just gotta get it anyway you can.  (For those who are innocent babies “IT” is sex)
1. Have you ever initiated a booty call?
By definition, a booty call is a phone call, text, email, etc. whose purpose is to arrange a meeting to have casual sex.  Based on that, I've never initiated or accepted a booty call.  There are times, however, when L or I have deviated from our norm and arranged for time together that day or the following day to fill a particularly urgent need that just won't wait until the next time we can get together.  We even call it "making a booty call". :)

2. Have you ever accepted a booty call?
See #1.

3. Ever had a “friend with benefits” relationship? How long did it last? Are you still friends or acquaintances with that person? Are you still having sex with that friend?
I have had an ongoing FWB relationship with someone for almost 30 years now. We live in different countries, so we don't see each other often and opportunity does not arise each time we meet, so it could be months or even years between encounters. In recent years, this has worked particularly well for me.  I am quite happy and satisfied in my relationship with L and don't feel the need to pursue others at this time - it's very strange that I have no qualms about cheating on my husband, but I won't "cheat" on L, even though he'd probably give me his blessing to do so if I asked.  During the years that I've been L's lover, I have visited or been visited by my FWB several times.  The few times opportunity arose, I've indicated to my friend that I have not been available for sex.     

4. Tell us about your best one-night stand, what made it so good?
There are two people I've had sex with just once.  The first I wouldn't consider a one-night stand - he was a co-worker that really liked me and hounded me incessantly, but I wasn't that into him.  In a moment of weakness/insanity, I caved.  The second I met and as a lonely woman who felt she had nothing to offer, I was easy prey when he said flattering things and that he wanted to fuck me.  The only good aspects about both situations was that I learned something new about myself both times. 

5. When was your last one-night stand?
It's been a number of years and I doubt it would happen again.

6. What’s the grimiest, dirtiest place that you’ve had sex?
I had to think long and hard about this question.  I really could not think of anyplace grimy and dirty where I've had sex.  I asked L to help me and he said, "Does in the butt count?"  lol  Gee, thanks lover.  Then I remembered a bit of a muddy occasion.  We wrote about it here.

Bonus: What’s the one random thing you wish your friends knew about you?
I'm a private, quiet and shy woman, so a lot of people don't see the 'real' me. Some have told me that when we met, they thought I was aloof and unapproachable.  Even those that know me better would use phrases like "good girl", "prim and proper" and "goody two-shoes" to describe me.  For some reason, in spite of being tattooed and pierced (though to be fair, mostly sub-rosa) and perenially horny, people always assume I'm very conservative and prudish when that couldn't be farther from the truth!



  1. Honest and forthright as ever V - thanks for sharing

  2. I loved your answer to #3. Beyond the admiration I have for your ongoing FWB relationship you describe, I loved the distinction between cheating on your husband and cheating on L. It shows that your two primary relationships are vastly different and provide you with obviously very different levels of satisfaction.

    Also, it's excellent that in both of your one-night stands you came away from the experiences having learned something about yourself.

  3. I understand what you mean about #2. Sometimes learning about yourself is the 'only good' that can come of a situation. I don't like to think about how I put my safety and health at risk with some of that.

  4. 6. hahaha. I like L's answer. It counts :D

    Bonus: I used to get that a lot in my younger days but now I am to out there and hyper for anyone to think my shy tendencies and behaviors are me being aloof.