TMI Tuesday - 8/14

Any Regrets?

Looking back on our lives, we can have a mix of reactions to the things we’ve done. When it comes to sex, our memories can color us with pride, fondness, nostalgia, indifference, or all too often, regret.  This week’s TMI Tuesday questions delve into things that people typically regret later in life. How much do you regret, if at all, any of the following?

Most of my regrets in life have come from perceived unkindnesses I've done in the past.  I say "perceived" because I've discovered, through apologizing for things that have long bothered me after the fact, that these unkindnesses have often affected me far more than the recipient.  Sometimes the other party never thought anything of it, or were upset at the time but have long since forgotten and moved on, but yet I've lived for years regretting things I've said/not said or done/not done to help or encourage people along the way, particularly when I was very young. 

It's certainly changed the way I live today.  I am extremely empathic and sensitive to other peoples' feelings and I have few - if any -  regrets these days.  I choose to view regrettable situations as learning opportunities, because invariably, when we mess up enough to regret it, there's a lesson there to be learned - something about yourself to discover.  It's not always a good discovery, but then you have a choice - to continue on that same path or to make a change and be the person you want to be.

1. Do you regret how you “lost” your virginity? If yes, why and to whom would you have preferred to have lost it?
I barely remember this specific encounter, but I do know that it was a positive experience in a relationship that lasted a number of years.  I have no regrets there, including that it eventually ended.

2. Have you ever lived a moment in your life where you said “Yeah, I’m not going to ever tell anyone about that.” Describe that moment or incident.
"Yeah, I'm still never going to tell anyone about that....."

3. Do you regret having acted on a sexual impulse? If yes, please describe.
Yes!   See question 2.  Suffice it to say I did something very out of character, but while I do regret the experience, it did serve to teach me a valuable lesson. 

4. Do you regret not having had sex with someone who you could have had sex? If yes, would you do it over and have sex?
Although I haven't had that many sex partners, I can't think of anyone that I really wanted to have sex with, but didn't. 

5. Do you regret not having asked out or tried to hook up with someone you really liked out of fear of rejection only to later learn that person wanted you, too? If yes, please describe.
Nope. 

6. Do you regret having done a particular sex act? If yes, please describe.
I have not regretted trying anything.  Some things work and become part of the repertoire where others don't work or just don't work for me and are dropped off the list.  You never know what you will discover when you try new things and for me, learning new things about myself is forward momentum, so I don't feel regretful about anything at all.

Bonus: Do you regret not having told someone you love them? (Romantic, not familial or friendship love.)
I have loved very, very few people in my life in the romantic sense.  I've read some blogs where the bloggers profess their love for every man they meet - that's not me.  I'm not a person that takes those words lightly - if I didn't mean it, I would never say it.  Neither am I a person that says it often to those that have my love.  Do I regret not saying it?  No. Those that are loved by me should never have any doubts that it's so.  It's there, wrapped up in every word, touch, kindness and deed directed their way.