TMI Tuesday - 10/30

The LONG and the SHORT of it

1. What is the longest relationship you have been in?
I've been married over 25 years.  To break that down, that's more than half my life and about 15 years too many.

2. What is the shortest relationship you have been in?
Even though I've been with L for a few years, it qualifies as my shortest relationship to date.

3. How often do you have sex? How often do you want sex?
L and I are fortunate to be able to see each other often.  We usually see each other (with opportunity for sex) at least once or twice per week (some weeks we see each other more often, but without opportunity).  Unless time is a huge constraint, we rarely have sex just once - most often it's multiple times with short breaks in between.  I think I speak for us both when I say that I wish it were more often, but I am also thankful for the time that we are able to spend together. How often do I want sex?  Put it this way...when we travel together, we normally have sex twice per day - morning and evening...and even then sometimes during the day I want to jump his bones.

4. How long does sex usually last?
That varies greatly...how horny are we?  Have we been drinking? Are we in a hurry?  Are we somewhere private or public? There are lots of factors.  Not only that, but I'm not in the habit of checking my watch while I'm being rogered.

5. Have you ever had an experience where someone couldn’t perform, finished too quickly or couldn’t keep up with you? Tell us about it?
That happens, but rarely....and quite frankly I don't see it as a big deal.  I choose to look at it positively - how can you be put out when someone's so excited to be with you that they've lost control?  I think if it were a regular occurance I might struggle more with it, however there are many ways to get someone off, so as long as he recognizes that he's left me hanging and helps looks after me after the fact, it's all good.

6. If you could only have one “type” of sexual encounter for the rest of your life, would you prefer
a) short and sweet
b) wham bam thank you ma’am
c) here for the long haul
d) slow and tender
Trying to decipher what these mean!  lol  Short and sweet - there's definitely times when a quickie hits the spot.  Does wham bam thank you ma'am mean rough sex?  If so, I'm in!  Here for the long haul - I assume this means a longer encounter.  Those are common if L's been drinking.  Slow and tender - there are times, though rare, when this is just what I need.  Overall, given my perceptions of what these mean, I'd go for the intense and rougher sex, so I'll say (b)!

Bonus: Would you consider ending an otherwise healthy and loving relationship if the sex wasn’t what you wanted?
In my first year with L, I probably had more sex than I did in my last 15 years of marriage.  In my experience, I think that without that sexual connection between two people and no other efforts made to meet needs, other feelings of intimacy fade and a relationship that you may have once considered loving can become something much more distant and irrelevant.  I do strongly feel though that it all depends on the people involved and the reason for the lack of sex.  I'm sure that it's possible for a couple to remain devoted to each other and do other things to maintain that intimacy between them - take the time to recognize the needs of the other, do things with and for each other and make an effort to support each other and be understanding about the reasons for the lack of sex - such a relationship might be able to endure.  So I think as much as I love sex, if the relationship was everything I wanted it to be, except for the sex, I might be inclined to stay. 

L's NPOTW - We Get Knotty in the Pines

Lovely autumn hike through the woods today with V.  The almost bare trees make it easier to tie her up, only I had no rope with me.  No matter - I just used her shirt.  The cool breeze gave her

goosebumps everywhere as I had my way with her erect nipples.

 

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TMI Tuesday - 10/23

Then And Now

Thank you to the TMI Tuesday reader who submitted the following THEN AND NOW questions. He wanted to remain anonymous.

1. What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 17 year old you?
The 17 year old me was still a virgin.  Although she was always a very sensual and sexual person, I think she was not very worldly and a lot of things might surprise her.  A lot of men wanted her (with various intentions - sex, marriage, etc.) and she in turn understood the effect she had on men, though she was not bold enough to use it to her advantage.  I think though that since she would have had no exposure whatsoever to a BDSM lifestyle or the types of sexual acts categorized under that heading, that she might certainly be surprised to imagine that the future her would find that lifestyle so enjoyable, though in retrospect, it almost seems like a natural progression.

2. What one thing might shock that younger you?
I think the younger me might be shocked that I had the temerity to go and get a VCH piercing.

3. What part of the younger you’s (not necessarily at age 17) sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia?
I don't think I view anything in the past with nostalgia sexually speaking.   Only at this current time in my life is my sex life approaching what I'd always hoped it could be.  I have had a more frequent and exciting sex life with L than I ever had in my marriage or in any of the short relationships I had leading up to it.  Not that I'm complaining at all, but my sex life with L is fantastic in quality, but could be even better with increased quantity.    It happens from time to time - days of opportunity where we can experience both quality and quantities that are more than satisfying.  Though rare, those times certainly stand out...Oh!  Perhaps those are the times I can look back on with nostalgia!  

4. Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?
Although the younger me failed horribly in the sexual ambitions category by marrying someone whose sex drive did not even come close to matching her own, I think I've fulfilled all of that young woman's fantasies and many more that she never knew she'd have. I wonder what she'd think of the fantasies I dream up now!

Bonus:  Give your 17 year old self a piece of sexual advice.
Don't marry a man whose sex drive does not match your own - it's not true that all men love sex or think about it all the time.  Some don't give it a moment's thought.  Ever.  Also, if you cannot be your true self in the bedroom without fear of judgement, then you have the wrong man.

L's NPOTW - Accessible

I had lunch with V a day this week and asked her to make sure she was accessible. When she arrived to pick me up, she wore a dress and this was my view in the passenger seat. I guess she wanted me to know she had honoured my request.

 

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L's NPOTW - LM Is A.....

Suckin' on the nipple
It's a sweeter than the ripple wine.
Yes its sweeter than the wine.

~Loudon Wainwright, from Rufus Is a Tit Man

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We said: MBE 2012

Crowd gathered around two scenes in progress

Once again, L and I had the opportunity to attend MBE - Morpheous' Bondage Extravaganza.  Even bigger and better than last year, it was truly an incredible showcase of all types of bondage.  We were able to watch at least 15 different scenes.  While it was apparent that there was a vast difference in the capabilities of the riggers, we still enjoyed ourselves and were amazed at some of the elaborate work.  Here are some descriptions and pictures of some of our favourite scenes:

A very tall, very lovely and very pregnant woman was being tied with a fabulous rope corset.  The rope corset was an amazing enhancement to her already-beautiful body.  The rigger, a man in jeans and a leather vest did an absolutely fantastic job - it was just stunning!  Unfortunately, flash photography was not permitted in the venue and the area they were working in was not well lit, so I was not successful in capturing a picture of suitable quality to share with you.

The Big 'O'

On a stage, a very well-dressed rigger, complete with mutton-chops tied his bunny's bent arms and legs, then slipping the rope under her squatting body and through her legs, he positioned a knot just so, bringing her to orgasm with just a few tugs of his rope.  I was absolutely fascinated with her facial expressions and took many pictures.  Her rapture was incredible to watch.

Like a bird!

In another area, another rigger did an inverted suspension that upon completion, rendered his bunny bird-like, body arched and her arms extended as though in flight.  It was very interesting to watch it take shape and I was fascinated.  The finished tie was very beautiful.

Twisted and spun while secured in the bamboo pyramid.

Yet another very elaborate scene used a pyramid constructed of bamboo poles.  I watched for a very long time while they secured the four corners of the pyramid...in fact it was taking so long that I walked away to view other scenes.  I was glad some time later that I had returned in time to be able to see the pyramid ready for use with the bunny now secured to the frame.  Tied to two of the poles, she held on tightly while the rigger strained to connect the pyramid to the suspension point, moving it upward gradually with the help of some caribiners and brute strength.  He succeeded of course, though with much effort and the suspended structure with the bunny inside was spun and twisted to great effect.

 Overall, the event was just an incredible showcase of talent - the amount of work that must have gone into making it happen is just mind boggling.  When we left The Great Hall after several hours in the venue, my ears were kind of numb from the super loud music - that had made it a bit hard to chat in there, but we talked all the way home about all the different things we saw and liked.  Since we attended the event, we didn't get a chance to see the video feed that was going on, but we're hoping there will be a rebroadcast that we will be able to tap into and enjoy the scenes we were unable to catch and maybe even enjoy seeing our favourites again.

TMI Tuesday - 10/2

You Wear It Well

Gemma Jones! I'll have to check out your blog....anyone who spells favourite with a 'u' in there rocks, in my book!!  

1. What is your most favourite thing to wear that you have in your closet at the moment?

I don't own a lot of clothes, but that's by choice.  I am very particular about my clothes - I don't care much how much it costs, but it must fit well, be comfortable and be flattering and enhancing.  If that happens for $5 in the sale bin or for $150 in a boutique, that's fine either way. As a result of this peccadillo I love all my clothes, but I do have one top that's a special favourite.  It's perfect in every way.  It's loose and comfortable, yet still has a flattering shape to it.  It's just long enough, but not too long.  It's soft, simple, doesn't wrinkle and always looks good and it's my go-to top every single time I travel. It's my worry-free choice.

2. What is the one item of clothing that you have seen on one of your friends / workmates that you would steal for yourself if you had the chance?

I can't think of anything specific, but I will say that if there was something, it would probably be a pair of shoes.  Of all the things in my wardrobe, I have the most difficulty finding shoes that are comfortable, yet stylish.  Apparently to have "comfortable and stylish shoes" is oxymoronic.  I just think it's moronic that they're not easier to find. :)

3. What is the one thing that your partner wears that never fails to turn you on. Why does it turn you on so much?
L often wears khaki pants, but in between he wears black or brown Levi's.  They are more fitted and hug his ass like nothing else.  I often end up a step or two behind L - my short legs struggle sometimes to keep up with his pace when he's not paying attention to slowing down to accommodate me, and I secretly lust after him as I stare at that sweet little ass as he walks in front of me.  It makes me think about all kinds of naughty things.

4. What is the one thing you wear when you want to attract the attention of your partner or others?
Probably something low cut.  L is very clearly a breast man.  I have pretty large breasts (H cup!) which can sometimes attract a fair amount of attention in general.  Depending on the situation, it can be interesting.  I've had men staring at my cleavage with their mouths practically watering...but I've had the other extreme too.  I was in the US with L and an elderly gentleman in the hotel elevator made his disapproval of my peekaboo top so apparent that I felt horribly uncomfortable and embarrassed and ended up going back to the room to change.  L thought it was funny.

5. When you want to feel sexy what do you wear and why?

That's a bit of a chicken and egg question.  No doubt, some clothes make you feel sexy.  But then sometimes feeling sexy, you choose certain clothes.  For me, the former is more common than the latter.  Since I like to feel sexy all the time, I think I achieve that best by always having on lovely bras and matching panties.  No matter what I I'm wearing on top, it's a bit titillating (no pun intended) to know that I'm very nicely kitted out underneath.  

6. If you had unlimited funds but could only shop for one type of clothing (shoes, lingerie, fetish etc) what would it be?

Lingerie for sure.  I have a serious bra fetish.  I probably have 20 or more bras of all colours (<--see that...it has a 'u'!) with matching panties.  Despite the lingerie fetish, I'm not really a girly-girl and I'm not keen on frills and ribbons.  I do like lace, but I'm seriously hot for these at the moment.  They are sexy, unique and remind me of rope bondage and they look fabulous!

Bonus: Tell us about your favourite scenario, real or fantasy, that involves some kind of clothing or fetish wear.

Every summer there is a fetish boat cruise here.  L and I have talked about going for the last three years, but it has yet to work out.  Although we both own clothing items that could be termed "fetish wear" (having prepared for that day when we actually go on the cruise) we've never worn them, except for each other!