TMI Tuesday - 1/29

Describe It

1. Describe your lover’s penis with a movie title.
The Magnificent Seven

2. Describe your pussy with a movie title.
Naked Harbor

3. Describe your last sexual encounter with a song title.
Fuck Her Gently by Tenacious D

4. Describe your body with a song title.
I couldn't think of one, so I consulted L.  Immediately he said, "Hot Chocolate". I laughed and said I was pretty sure they were a band, not a song.  L then suggested I use their song, "You Sexy Thing".

5. Describe your sexual appetite with a book, song, or movie title.
Light My Fire by The Doors fits, I think.  I may not always have sex on the brain, but it doesn't take much to get me going.

Bonus: Recommend your favorite sexy, sensual or kink oriented book.
Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame by Lee Harrington.  L and I were fortunate to attend a workshop run by Lee and we had a fantastic time and learned a great deal.  We highly recommend any of his books - and there are several.

TMI Tuesday - 1/22

I just realized that this post, although set to auto post, did not!  Posting now...a week late, but better late than never!

Thanks to an anonymous TMI Tuesday fan and lurker for this week’s TMI Tuesday questions.

Complete each sentence with an anecdote of sexual adventure or misadventure:

1. The first time I . . .

The first time I had sex with L, it was my birthday.  We had been chatting online and clicked and then met and really clicked.  Unfortunately, I was obligated to go out to dinner with some friends and was becoming horribly pressed for time AND on my period to boot, so I had to leave before I jumped him in the back seat of my car!  The next available time to get together happened to be my birthday.  We met this time at his office after hours.  He led me into a conference room where he had snacks laid out - cheese and veggies and dip - as well as a bottle of champagne.  Now I'm old enough to not much care about birthdays, but I have to admit that I was delighted that he had gone through the trouble.  We snacked, drank and then next thing I knew, I was laid out.  I went home sporting a hickey and I had no idea.  The whole story can be read here.

2. The last time I . . .

...had sex with my husband was 7 years ago.  In the first year L and I were together, I'm fairly positive I had sex more times that my entire 25+ years of marriage.

3. The only time I . . .

...think of sex is when I'm breathing.

4. My best . . .

...sexual encounter with L (to date!) happened just a few months ago.  We were in a hotel, so things were a bit more relaxed and unhurried, not having to watch the time or worry about privacy.  There are a number of things that push my sexual buttons.  I've written about many of them - being restrained, having my neck ravished, being surrounded and overpowered by him to name a few.  This particular sexual encounter involved the spontaneous occurrence of so many of these button-pressing moments at once that I virtually exploded.  It was just sublime.

5. My worst . . .

...experience with L happened when we were caught in a compromising position - by the police.  We had carpooled to an event and when I stopped in a small parking lot to drop L to his car, one thing led to another.  L was supposed to be keeping lookout, but he certainly didn't express any urgency when he said a car pulled into the lot.  It was only when he said someone was getting out of the car and heading over to my vehicle that I became alarmed.  Long story short, we were spoken to and were both horribly embarrassed by the incident.  In retrospect, I was also a bit annoyed by the cop's comment, "...and you're not even young people!"  Bite me, asshole!

BONUS: Everyone, however much experienced, still has some unfulfilled desires. What is at the top of your yet-to-do list?

Well, that would probably be dabbling in consensual non-consent and playing out a (play) rape scene.  To be very clear, I don't condone (real) rape nor wish to minimize the horrible impact it has on those unfortunate to have experienced it.  I explained it at length in a TMI question about fantasies not too very long ago, so I'll choose something else for the purpose of not being repetitive.  Well, actually, I suppose this ties in with the consensual non-consent, in a different way.   I've long held a fantasy - and I'm not even sure if I've ever mentioned this one to him - of L immobilizing me with his rope and having his way with me.  Just being tied up and opened up for his use in whatever way he pleases.  Are you reading, Sweetie? :)

TMI Tuesday - 1/15

You ought to be in pictures

A bunch of celebrity sex tapes have been made public through fair means or foul. Have you seen any of these? Which ones?

Pamela Anderson and Bret Michaels
Paris Hilton and Rick Solomon
Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee
Kim Kardashian and Ray-J
Kendra Wilkinson and Justin Frye

I've seen none of these!

Today’s TMI Tuesday topic is sex photography and video.

1. Did you ever pose for pictures in sexual situations, or take pictures of a lover?

Until I met L, I had never done this before.  We have taken many hundreds of pictures of each other in sexual situations...and a very small number of each other (or together), but not in sexual situations.

2. Did you keep these pictures private between yourselves, or did others see them?

The large majority of those pictures are kept in private between the two of us.  A (relatively) small number of them have been published on our blog for HNT and Naughty Picture of the Week features.

3. Did any of them ever get out in public with embarrassing results?

While we are aware that a couple people that know us read our blog (and don't realize it's us they're reading about!), as far as we know, we've never had any blog pictures recognized.  We've also never had our private stash get out in public.

4. Were you ever videotaped having sex?

Yes!  L's friend visiting from England took a video of L and I having sex.  It's quite a lovely video, I must say.

5. If so, was the tape ever made public?

No.  Obviously in this day and age there is no actual "tape", but our video has not been made public, with the exception of a single frame that we posted as an HNT quite a long time ago.  It was rather a daring thing to post and we've since retired that image, just to keep things safe.

6. Were you ever photographed or taped without your knowledge?

I don't think I've ever been photographed or videoed without my knowledge, no.

Bonus: Post a picture of a body part.

This week’s TMI Tuesday was written by Virtualsin.wordpress.com

TMI Tuesday - 1/8

Rabbits! 

1. What feels better, the moment right before cumming, the moment of cumming, or the moment right after cumming? 
We discussed and decided that all three feel really good, for different reasons.

2. For the fellas: it is said that guys will fuck anything that moves. but what if you’re a hippie who’s in love with the wind, how would that relationship work out?
L says, "Blow jobs are nice but mouths feel much better than breezes..."

3. For the ladies: what would be your first gut reaction after the guy you’re on a first date with after months of online chatting looks you straight in the eye and whispers to you even before saying hi, “let’s fuck like rabbits…”? 
I have to say my initial response would be to laugh it off.  I'm horribly shy and I'd be super embarrassed (while possibly a bit flattered) if someone who I wasn't very comfortable with said that to me. If I wasn't sure about him or didn't feel much of a connection when chatting, then I'd be wary from then on.  If I felt a strong connection with him, then I'd take that as intent and move on with our date, knowing where it could lead if I wanted it to.

4. There can only be ONE!!! okay, you have to choose EITHER your dream man/woman/lover/partner or your dream job, one or the other, not both. Which do you choose for the rest of your life and why? 
I would take my dream lover over my dream job, no questions asked.  A job is a job - a means to earn my keep.  Obviously, some jobs are hellish, some are tolerable and others are a joy to attend every day.  In the end though, it's the people in your life that help you get through.  Jobs come and go, but your lover is your constant source of love and support through all of it, even long after you've retired and no longer hold a job.

5. Is love itself, being in love, crazy? Or is the world crazy, and love serves to heal a crazy world? or is it that you’re crazy and the world is just fine? I guess what i’m asking from you is for a little treatise on the general topic of love and craziness. what is love?…baby, don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me…
What is love?  I ponder this question fairly often - what is love?  Does it exist?  Really? Do I feel it?  Do I trust it? How do I find someone who will feel that way about me? Is that even possible? Am I unlovable? All unanswerable in the end.  Bah.

Bonus: If all of us in the blogging community pooled our resources together and chained our blogs in unison into one big shining electrical power line of humanity, could we save the world?
Um.  No?

Our HNT - Anniversary Post

V and I recently donned our Christmas gear and had a great time preparing our HNT Anniversary post. 

 

 

 

Wishing you all a Merry Christmas and a Sexy New Year!

 

TMI Tuesday - 12/11

'Tis the Season!

1. During the December holiday season, Do you
a. Go away to join other family?
b. Have holiday fun with immediate family?
c. Get to be alone with a lover?
d. Enjoy the peace and quiet and down-time of being with yourself?
It varies.  Most of my family lives overseas, so sometimes it's a. and sometimes it's b. (minus the fun).  Although it would be lovely, c. would be unlikely.  Sometimes, I wish for d.

2. What is your favorite holiday tradition or thing that you like to do every holiday season?
I bake a ton of stuff every year...cookies, cakes, breads, etc.

3. You are walking down the street and a sexy person is standing with a sign that says “Kiss Me” and mistletoe hanging above their head.
1. Would you kiss that person? NO
2. Why or why not? Though I might think about it, but I am a shy person and it's unlikely I'd put myself out there to kiss a stranger.

4. Santa made up his list and he has checked it twice. Turns out you are on the “naughty” list. What is the naughty thing you did that put you on that list?
My goodness, where would I start!?  I've done numerous naughty things this year, it would be hard to choose just one.

5. For being naughty you have been locked in a room where you will be forced to learn about holiday cheer. You will have to watch 24 hours of a holiday movie, which movie would you choose to watch? (pick just one)
a. A Christmas Story
b. It’s a Wonderful Life
c. White Christmas
d. A Christmas Carol (original 1938 version or the 1992 Muppet version)
Two of these movies I've never seen, so I'd hesitate to commit to watching them for 24 hours.  It's a Wonderful Life I saw once a few years ago and I really enjoyed it.  Having seen it only that one time and remembering only a few parts in particular, I could probably stand to watch it over and over again....so I'll go with b.


Bonus: The holidays can be a hectic time of year, so much so that romance might take a back seat to festivities and such. Give us YOUR sexy tip for keeping away the “chill” and “heating up” the
holiday season.
My Mrs. Claus costume always seems to heat things up. :P

TMI Tuesday - 12/4

Sexual Fantasies

1. Do you think that acting out a fantasy can sometimes cause damage to a relationship?
I think it depends on the fantasy.  If L wants me to don a specifically styled blonde wig and answer to his ex-wife's name, it may have a completely different result than if his fantasy involves me donning a blonde wig and playing the part of a stranger impressed with his physique who wants to suck his cock.

2. Some couples role play their fantasies rather than introducing another person into the relationship to live out their fantasies. Do you think that this is an acceptable substitute?
We have brought in a third to our relationship before (or perhaps I was the third!), but we also role play from time to time.  For me, that only works if I take the role very seriously.  Certainly you feel a bit ridiculous - a woman my age dressed up as a school girl, for example, but if you really embrace the role it is quite fun and can be a very intense encounter.  L's very busy at work lately and doesn't have much blog-reading time.  So since I don't think he'll read this, I'm going to tell you all a secret.  I know L has a thing for redheads, so I recently bought a gorgeous wig.  Sure, my skin tone is just about as far from what a redhead would have as possible, but I'm sure when he has me bent over a bed, table or desk that won't matter.  I can't wait for the opportunity to wear it for him!  I was so pleased with it, that I've since purchased two more - one blonde and one brunette.  After all, variety is the spice of life!

3. Is there a particular movie or TV series or character from a movie or TV series that you fantasise about?
No - I never fantasize about TV or movie stars, characters or themes.  In fact, I don't give them any thought at all.

4. Apart from the obvious things like child abuse, are there some things that are ‘off limits’ for a fantasy e.g. incest fantasies, age play, rape fantasies. Why/ why not?
I haven't discussed many off limits fantasies with L, but there are some I'm interested in.  The primary one - which we have discussed a few times - is that I have a fantasy about being (play) raped.  Extreme?  Perhaps - and definitely not for everybody.  One should note that having a rape fantasy does not mean I want to be raped or condone the action of rape.  When one is raped, you are in a position where you are forced to do things against your will and all control has been removed from you.  I find that situation horribly demeaning and devastating and I wouldn't wish that on anybody.  A rape fantasy is different because I would be "raped" (consensual non-consent), but on my own terms and with control.  If I say stop, it stops.  I have a complete outfit of clothes that can be destroyed (pants have holes, shirt I no longer wear, etc.) that I have been saving for when that happens - I imagine them being ripped and cut from my body while I am being heavily restrained with his body.

5. What is the most taboo thing you have ever fantasised about doing?
See #4 - I'm pretty sure that's the worst I've come up with.  So far.

6. Tell us about a fantasy that you have that you don’t ever see yourself actually acting out. Why do
you think you will never act it out?
Again, see #4.  There are a couple reasons it has not happened.  Certainly time and place have been an issue so far. Also, L is a really, really, really nice man and I think that while the idea of being a completely rough barbarian with me appeals, it is very difficult for him to put it into practice.  The word "rape" freaks him a bit....every time I say "rape", he interjects with "play rape", not to mention he's afraid of hurting me and leaving marks.  We talk a lot about what we do, what we'd like to do, etc., so one day he may get there and feel comfortable in the role, but until then a fantasy it remains.  It may always be so and I can respect that, but I hold on to those old clothes and live in hope. ;)

7. Have you ever pretended the person you were having sex with was someone else without telling them?
Never, never, never.  When I'm having sex with someone, I'm always extremely focused on them and present with them.  For me, everything around becomes a blur.

8. Have you ever tried to make a fantasy a reality only to have it fail miserably? What happened?
I wouldn't say "failed miserably", but I have had elements of a fantasy acted out and found that the mental image did not match the resulting actions.  Not to say those actions weren't completely hot and fun, but they just weren't exactly as I imagined they would be.

Bonus: Tell us about your most cherished fantasy. Did you ever live it out? Please give us all the juicy details because that is the kind of people we are.
I don't harbour a huge number of fantasies, to be honest.  L has expanded my sexual horizons so widely that most of the things that I had considered fantasies are now part of our everyday repertoire of hot and fun times. Most of the things that remain as fantasies are best left as fantasies - they might be overly painful or impractical for our surroundings, require contortions no longer possible with our aging bodies, may pose a danger to one or both of us or just plain may not end up as hot as we imagine them to be. 


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