Our HNT - Anniversary Post

V and I recently donned our Christmas gear and had a great time preparing our HNT Anniversary post. 

 

 

 

Wishing you all a Merry Christmas and a Sexy New Year!

 

TMI Tuesday - 12/11

'Tis the Season!

1. During the December holiday season, Do you
a. Go away to join other family?
b. Have holiday fun with immediate family?
c. Get to be alone with a lover?
d. Enjoy the peace and quiet and down-time of being with yourself?
It varies.  Most of my family lives overseas, so sometimes it's a. and sometimes it's b. (minus the fun).  Although it would be lovely, c. would be unlikely.  Sometimes, I wish for d.

2. What is your favorite holiday tradition or thing that you like to do every holiday season?
I bake a ton of stuff every year...cookies, cakes, breads, etc.

3. You are walking down the street and a sexy person is standing with a sign that says “Kiss Me” and mistletoe hanging above their head.
1. Would you kiss that person? NO
2. Why or why not? Though I might think about it, but I am a shy person and it's unlikely I'd put myself out there to kiss a stranger.

4. Santa made up his list and he has checked it twice. Turns out you are on the “naughty” list. What is the naughty thing you did that put you on that list?
My goodness, where would I start!?  I've done numerous naughty things this year, it would be hard to choose just one.

5. For being naughty you have been locked in a room where you will be forced to learn about holiday cheer. You will have to watch 24 hours of a holiday movie, which movie would you choose to watch? (pick just one)
a. A Christmas Story
b. It’s a Wonderful Life
c. White Christmas
d. A Christmas Carol (original 1938 version or the 1992 Muppet version)
Two of these movies I've never seen, so I'd hesitate to commit to watching them for 24 hours.  It's a Wonderful Life I saw once a few years ago and I really enjoyed it.  Having seen it only that one time and remembering only a few parts in particular, I could probably stand to watch it over and over again....so I'll go with b.


Bonus: The holidays can be a hectic time of year, so much so that romance might take a back seat to festivities and such. Give us YOUR sexy tip for keeping away the “chill” and “heating up” the
holiday season.
My Mrs. Claus costume always seems to heat things up. :P

TMI Tuesday - 12/4

Sexual Fantasies

1. Do you think that acting out a fantasy can sometimes cause damage to a relationship?
I think it depends on the fantasy.  If L wants me to don a specifically styled blonde wig and answer to his ex-wife's name, it may have a completely different result than if his fantasy involves me donning a blonde wig and playing the part of a stranger impressed with his physique who wants to suck his cock.

2. Some couples role play their fantasies rather than introducing another person into the relationship to live out their fantasies. Do you think that this is an acceptable substitute?
We have brought in a third to our relationship before (or perhaps I was the third!), but we also role play from time to time.  For me, that only works if I take the role very seriously.  Certainly you feel a bit ridiculous - a woman my age dressed up as a school girl, for example, but if you really embrace the role it is quite fun and can be a very intense encounter.  L's very busy at work lately and doesn't have much blog-reading time.  So since I don't think he'll read this, I'm going to tell you all a secret.  I know L has a thing for redheads, so I recently bought a gorgeous wig.  Sure, my skin tone is just about as far from what a redhead would have as possible, but I'm sure when he has me bent over a bed, table or desk that won't matter.  I can't wait for the opportunity to wear it for him!  I was so pleased with it, that I've since purchased two more - one blonde and one brunette.  After all, variety is the spice of life!

3. Is there a particular movie or TV series or character from a movie or TV series that you fantasise about?
No - I never fantasize about TV or movie stars, characters or themes.  In fact, I don't give them any thought at all.

4. Apart from the obvious things like child abuse, are there some things that are ‘off limits’ for a fantasy e.g. incest fantasies, age play, rape fantasies. Why/ why not?
I haven't discussed many off limits fantasies with L, but there are some I'm interested in.  The primary one - which we have discussed a few times - is that I have a fantasy about being (play) raped.  Extreme?  Perhaps - and definitely not for everybody.  One should note that having a rape fantasy does not mean I want to be raped or condone the action of rape.  When one is raped, you are in a position where you are forced to do things against your will and all control has been removed from you.  I find that situation horribly demeaning and devastating and I wouldn't wish that on anybody.  A rape fantasy is different because I would be "raped" (consensual non-consent), but on my own terms and with control.  If I say stop, it stops.  I have a complete outfit of clothes that can be destroyed (pants have holes, shirt I no longer wear, etc.) that I have been saving for when that happens - I imagine them being ripped and cut from my body while I am being heavily restrained with his body.

5. What is the most taboo thing you have ever fantasised about doing?
See #4 - I'm pretty sure that's the worst I've come up with.  So far.

6. Tell us about a fantasy that you have that you don’t ever see yourself actually acting out. Why do
you think you will never act it out?
Again, see #4.  There are a couple reasons it has not happened.  Certainly time and place have been an issue so far. Also, L is a really, really, really nice man and I think that while the idea of being a completely rough barbarian with me appeals, it is very difficult for him to put it into practice.  The word "rape" freaks him a bit....every time I say "rape", he interjects with "play rape", not to mention he's afraid of hurting me and leaving marks.  We talk a lot about what we do, what we'd like to do, etc., so one day he may get there and feel comfortable in the role, but until then a fantasy it remains.  It may always be so and I can respect that, but I hold on to those old clothes and live in hope. ;)

7. Have you ever pretended the person you were having sex with was someone else without telling them?
Never, never, never.  When I'm having sex with someone, I'm always extremely focused on them and present with them.  For me, everything around becomes a blur.

8. Have you ever tried to make a fantasy a reality only to have it fail miserably? What happened?
I wouldn't say "failed miserably", but I have had elements of a fantasy acted out and found that the mental image did not match the resulting actions.  Not to say those actions weren't completely hot and fun, but they just weren't exactly as I imagined they would be.

Bonus: Tell us about your most cherished fantasy. Did you ever live it out? Please give us all the juicy details because that is the kind of people we are.
I don't harbour a huge number of fantasies, to be honest.  L has expanded my sexual horizons so widely that most of the things that I had considered fantasies are now part of our everyday repertoire of hot and fun times. Most of the things that remain as fantasies are best left as fantasies - they might be overly painful or impractical for our surroundings, require contortions no longer possible with our aging bodies, may pose a danger to one or both of us or just plain may not end up as hot as we imagine them to be. 


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TMI Tuesday - 11/20

Movember Wrap Up

 

This time, to switch it up a bit, I interviewed L - and threw in my own two cents along the way.

 

1. When is the last time you or your loved one had their prostate checked?
L said, "I last had my prostate checked at my annual physical a few months ago."

2. Besides a medical professional, how many other people have had their finger up your ass?
When asked this question, L responded to ask if he counted.  Pointing out that the question said "other people", so probably not, his response is "one" - I guess that's me!  My answer would be the same, except it would also include medical professionals.

3. Have you ever given or received a prostate massage? Did you like it? Did you cum or orgasm?
I can vouch that L has had a prostate massage and I don't think he much liked it, but let's see what he had to say.  When asked, L responded, "Yes - and it was okay...but no, I did not cum or orgasm."

4. Do you enjoy anal play–rimming, fingering, penetration, etc.?
I do enjoy anal play, having experienced fingering and penetration. L has experienced all three and says that while he is positive toward ass play in general, he feels that more experience is required before he can fully make up his mind. 

5. Ever had anal sex?
A. No, and I don’t want to.
B. No, but I am dying to try it.
C. Yes, but it is just okay.
D. Yes, love it…can’t get enough of it.
E. That’s the way I like it. Anal sex is the best sex.
L and I both enjoy anal sex.  L chose option C.  I'll choose C also, but really the answer is something between C and D.  I think it's better than "just okay", but perhaps not to the extent that I "can't get enough of it".

6. You are about to have anal sex, which method would you choose (You must choose one.):
A. Finger up the ass
B. Prostate stimulator/massager
C. Penis–real or strap-on
While I would choose C - and L's penis - every time, L's choice here would be A.

 

L's NPOTW

Good to the last drop


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TMI Tuesday - 11/13

Hello my fellow TMI Tuesday junkies. Movember is in full-swing. I can’t wait to see those Mo’s a little later in the month. In the meantime here is a set of VERY fine TMI Tuesday questions from longtime blogger and frequent TMI Tuesday question contributor virtualsin.wordpress.com

If you don’t know what Movember is all about see previous TMI Tuesday posts or click here.



1. Some men who have been treated for Prostate Cancer are unable to get an erection. If they were treated with surgery, the usual reason is nerve damage. They may have success with a penis pump. Have you (or your partner) ever used a pump? Did it work? Was it a turn-on or a turn-off?

No, thankfully I've never had a partner treated for prostate cancer.  The pump is an interesting device.  I have no idea if they work or not, but if they did, then I don't think they would be a turn-off.  I'd think that if you're in a great relationship, it's about the journey and not the destination.  Working together to do the things you want to do is never a bad thing and I'm sure that with patience and understanding, things could work out just fine - and it might also draw you closer to each other.

2. If they were treated with radiation, the usual reason [for the erectile dysfunction] is damage to blood vessels. They may have good luck with Viagra or or one of the other impotence meds. Have you (or your partner) ever used Viagra, Cialis, or similar? Did it work? Any interesting side effects? Any 4-hour erections? Tell us how you made use of that
I have no exposure to my partner using Viagra or any other medications to achieve erection.  Having read this question to L however, he's suggested that he now knows what he'd like for Christmas!
3. Some men may opt for a penile implant. See http://www.urologicalcare.com/advanced-ed-treatments/types-penile-implants/. Do you have experience with a penile implant (as owner or lover-of-owner)? Did it work for you?
Again, no exposure to a partner with a penile implant.

4. If they were treated with hormone therapy (e.g. Lupron Depot), they may also lose all libido. I can’t think of a good question, but if you have a story, please share.
No story, but I think it's a difficult thing when one partner loses all libido.  It is critical, but not easy to maintain the intimacy between you, even if it doesn't include sex as you once knew it.  It's important to evolve and expand your repertoire together to accommodate changes in capabilities and desires and to find things to do together to fill the gaps and maintain that connection between you.

5. Some men diagnosed with Prostate Cancer change their diet or avoid certain foods. Did you ever change your diet for health reasons? How did it work out? How long did you stay on the diet?
Not for prostate-related reasons obviously, but I've changed my diet for other health reasons a number of years ago.  I've been able to maintain that eating plan and it has worked out well - my health has greatly improved because of it.

6. The prostate is a sexual organ, and treatment of the prostate changes the sexual experience. A man who has had his prostate removed does not ejaculate at orgasm. How would you react to a total lack of cum?
I've only ever felt inclined to taste one man's cum (L's), but I liked it. In spite of that, if L had a problem and was unable to ejaculate, I don't think it would make that much difference to me.  I think it's important to be flexible and understanding of each others' issues and when you are, things just work out.  As long as he still enjoys the act of having sex and we can share that enjoyment, then life goes on. 

7. Although removal of the prostate reduces the intensity of orgasm in the pelvic region, some men report orgasmic feelings in other parts of the body, some describing a “whole body orgasm.” How cool is that?
That is cool...and seems only fair.  If someone has to go through the experience of dealing with prostate cancer and all the life-changing difficulties that go with it, it seems to me that they deserve to have such a positive side effect of all that treatment!

8. Do you think a man treated for Prostate Cancer deserves a blow job? If yes, please email Virtual Sin aka SinnerMan…
Very cute, SinnerMan!  Unfortunately, I'm not in a position to email you to set something up, but I can say that every man - prostate cancer survivor or not - deserves to have someone to perform cock worship and give them mind-blowing blow jobs on a regular basis.

L's NPOTW - Hair Tie

I got very turned on when I realized I could tie V's hair - I had always thought it would be too short, but that's only because the curls make it look far shorter than it really is. So the first chance we had some alone rope time I gave it a try. Here is the result.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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TMI Tuesday - 11/6

Movember is Here!

During November each year, Movember is responsible for the sprouting of moustaches on thousands of men’s faces around the world. With their Mo’s, these men raise vital awareness and funds for men’s health issues, specifically prostate and testicular cancer initiatives. 

This week the questions, from heelsnstocking.blogspot.com, have a moustache theme and a request for you to join in, even if it’s just a little self checking.

1. Ladies…Have you ever kissed a man with a moustache? Did you like it?
Yes, I have.  Two of them are never without a moustache.  L, normally clean shaven (or with a sexy bit of stubble) is a regular Movember participant, so I have also had the opportunity to kiss his moustachioed face many times.  I don't mind the little extra tickle at all!

2. They say ‘putting on the beard’ means going down on a lady with a full bush. Do you prefer a bearded, trimmed or bald pussy?
I myself haven't had a full bush for more than 15 years.  I definitely prefer bald for myself - in fact I've been bald for so long I hate to feel even the smallest amount of fuzz!  Since I've never been muff-diving, I decided to ask L for his opinion.  His response: "Bald is my favourite!".  Works for me!

3. What’s your preferred style of ‘tashing on’? (snogging)
Is "lots" a style?  lol  Seriously I just really love kissing...long sensuous ones where tongues tangle, short sippy open mouthed ones, ones with bites, quick smooches and I even love leaning over or reaching up and kissing L on the cheek (which I do all the time).

4. When was the last time you cupped yours or anyone else’s testicles?
Why, I did this just yesterday!  A lovely pair, I must say!

5. If you had a moustache what style would you be and why? Images for styles here.
I like them all.  The 'undercover brother' is the style I'm most familiar with in my life, but I do know two guys that have the 'wisp' and it's pretty hot!  A few months ago I saw a man with waxed handlebars and I thought that was pretty cool too!

He said: Curses, Foiled Again!

Who wouldn't want to have a pedicure in the woods while drinking wine? The natural followup would usually be a quick fuck or blowjob on the blanket. That would be unless your secret spot in the woods becomes a superhighway for dog walkers. It was just a good thing we heard their voices before either one or both of us had our pants around our ankles or naked asses exposed to the breeze. Our outdoor adventures have not been without incident so we have naturally become a bit skittish about being discovered in a compromising position  Scratch one opportunity for an outdoor naughty time.

We should have known that when the weather was so nice so late in the season that something would go wrong. How about a park full of kids and a fire truck? Who would have thought on the last good day before winter that instead of the park being locked up tight as expected that the gate would be wide open and full of school buses and cars. The blue flags marking the trail a few feet away from our secret picnic spot and the trampled down grass were additional confirmation that hanky panky would be a distinctly bad idea.

Not too much to add.  Lest you think that these days were terrible disappointments nothing could be further from the truth. V and I had a nice lunch with wine both times, all that was missing was the proverbial icing on the cake. I also managed to get a nice picture of my feet soaking as I waited for my pedicure.

She said: Twice Thwarted and Plans Aborted

Not sure if you've ever noticed from our pictures, but my feet are always well looked after.  I get a pedicure every three weeks - heels scrubbed, legs massaged and nails trimmed and polished -  sometimes plainly, but more often decorated by hand with sweeping designs or flowers and sometimes even little jewels. Even as a young mom when I didn't have the time or disposable income to worry about pedicures, I still looked after them regularly and kept them looking good.

By comparison, I think most men don't give a fig about what their feet look like.  Their idea of trimming their toenails is having them lopped off when they stub them on a piece of furniture.  Okay, I'm exaggerating...L, for one, isn't really that bad, but while he certainly does trim his toenails, it is not perhaps as regular an event as it should be.  A few years ago nearing L's birthday, I wanted to treat him to a pedicure as part of his birthday gift.  I learned a long time ago that L really enjoys being pampered sometimes and I suspected that once he got by the stigma of it being a "woman thing" that he'd actually really enjoy it.  I confided in my esthetician about him.

She is really great and as a result I have directed a fair amount of business her way, including several of my close family members.  I wanted to take L there for a pedicure, but I wanted to be sure first that she was comfortable with that situation.  I knew she'd keep my secret when I told her, but it's one thing to not repeat my story to others and quite another to be complicit by meeting and interacting with him.  She was fine with it though, and I was able to take L there and I sat and kept them company while he had his feet done.  Although he did enjoy it and said he'd go again, I did kind of sense that he felt that a lot of the steps were unnecessary for him.  He just really wanted someone to cut his nails. 

Recently, L asked me how much I pay to have a pedicure done.  After answering, I asked if he was interested in going again.  He seemed a bit undecided, so I asked if he'd like me to cut his nails for him.  He thought that it would be impractical, given the limitations of our relationship, but I thought we could easily do this in the park and it would work out just fine.  I explained what I had in mind and he agreed it sounded doable, so we made a date to have a lunch and pedicure session.

The day came and I packed up the items I thought I'd need - a basin, a flask of boiling water, a jug of warm water, a towel and some implements like clippers, cuticle pusher, file, etc.  It had been raining overnight, so after hiking to our secret spot - a small clearing that's a pretty out of the way - I spread a tarp on the ground and then our blanket on top of it.  L sat in a lawn chair and I prepared the water, mixing the warm and the hot until it was comfortable for him.  Then I handed him a bottle of wine to open while I organized some (very yummy!) sandwiches I had prepared.  We sat - he in the chair and me on the ground at his feet - and chatted, ate and sipped at our wine while he soaked.

When I finished eating, I cleared up and sat the towel on my lap and took one foot out of the water.  I clipped his toenails, pushed back and trimmed his cuticles, filed his nails and in no time, his foot was looking exponentially better than when we started.  Before starting on the next foot, I got some lotion and massaged from his calves down to his toes.  Doing the same for the other foot, I had just finished clipping his nails when we heard voices.  We've been to this spot many times, fucked there, given blow jobs there and never once had we run across anyone before.  We looked at each other in surprise, then tried to arrange things so it didn't look so strange.  We were talking quietly as a young couple and a little dog rounded the corner into our clearing.

We stopped, smiled and said hello as they passed through and into the path on the opposite side.  We declined to pick up where we left off right away as we knew they'd be back.  We'd scoped out this area pretty thoroughly, so we knew the path was too overgrown to go anywhere after you passed through to the other side.  The way they came in was the only way back out.  Not too long after, they came through again we smiled knowingly as they explained that they couldn't get through.  Once their voices had faded into the distance, I finished up with L's feet.  He put his shoes and socks back on and disposed of the soaking water while I packed up my implements.  I wanted to give him a blow job to tide him over until we were together again, but we both felt a little leary, wondering who would next be coming down the path.

A couple weeks later, we had a single day of fantastic weather in between many, many wet and dreary ones so we decided to take advantage of that glorious day and have another picnic - probably our last for the year.  Being my usual needy self, I was dying to get laid and L thought we might be able to squeeze one in while we were there.  We arrived at the same park to a bit of a surprise.  The main gates which had closed at Thanksgiving in early October and wouldn't reopen until spring were wide open and the park was a hive of activity. Cars, school buses, kids and adults packed the park.

We drove into the park, right down to the end of the long winding road and everywhere was full of cars and people.  It appeared there was a cross country running meet going on with multiple schools.  We decided to go back to the entrance and park there and hike in past the gates as originally planned.  As we approached our spot, we could see the grass had been trampled down considerably.  Between that clue and a few red flags planted in the ground we realized that the path for the runners passed uncomfortably close to our clearing.  With no leaves on the trees by this time, we certainly couldn't count on not being seen.

L had bought veal sandwiches and I brought some wine.  We put down a tarp and then our blanket, shed our light jackets in the warmth of the sun and sat together and ate our sandwiches and drank our wine.  Once we cleared away the food, L lay on his side propped on his elbow and I lay beside him on my stomach, with my arms folded in front of me to pillow my head and we chatted as he stroked and caressed my back.  Normally, our spot is very quiet and we enjoy the sounds of the forest - the calls of the birds, small animals scurrying through the undergrowth, etc., however this day, the sounds of school buses and cars drowned out the forest sounds.  At one point, an ambulance and fire truck even went down into the park and we wondered aloud what might have happened to require emergency services.

Alas, with so much activity (and children!) in the park, we were once again forced to behave.  Although sometimes things don't work out the way we planned, we still seem to be able to make the best of our time and enjoy each others' company.  So, although physical needs were not met those days, mental needs certainly were and both times, as I drove home after dropping L back to work, I reflected on how fortunate I was to have share yet another lovely picnic with him.

L's NPOTW - Autumn Leaves



Our first picture - just starting to change

What a Difference!



What a difference two weeks makes.  The days changed very quickly.  The first picture on the left was taken when the days were still warm, though with an unmistakeable coolness in the breeze and the nights were chilly.  A couple days after, the warm days said goodbye and it started to become much cooler.  Day after day we've had rain, dreary skies and weather that was very chilly indeed!







The following week





All gone and ready for winter!

Between then and now, there have been exactly two days in between that have been glorious. Relatively warm with sunshine and beautiful skies.  Each of those times, we have had the opportunity to visit our "secret spot" - the little hard-to-find clearing we've told you about.  The second week, V remarked how changed the tree in the clearing was just from the week before.  The third week we went, she was sad to see that the leaves were already all gone.

Autumn is a season followed immediately by looking forward to spring!
                                                                                       ~Sir Francis Bacon

V being camera shy in the woods

Here's the naughty bit: 

Save a tree - eat a beaver!

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TMI Tuesday - 10/30

The LONG and the SHORT of it

1. What is the longest relationship you have been in?
I've been married over 25 years.  To break that down, that's more than half my life and about 15 years too many.

2. What is the shortest relationship you have been in?
Even though I've been with L for a few years, it qualifies as my shortest relationship to date.

3. How often do you have sex? How often do you want sex?
L and I are fortunate to be able to see each other often.  We usually see each other (with opportunity for sex) at least once or twice per week (some weeks we see each other more often, but without opportunity).  Unless time is a huge constraint, we rarely have sex just once - most often it's multiple times with short breaks in between.  I think I speak for us both when I say that I wish it were more often, but I am also thankful for the time that we are able to spend together. How often do I want sex?  Put it this way...when we travel together, we normally have sex twice per day - morning and evening...and even then sometimes during the day I want to jump his bones.

4. How long does sex usually last?
That varies greatly...how horny are we?  Have we been drinking? Are we in a hurry?  Are we somewhere private or public? There are lots of factors.  Not only that, but I'm not in the habit of checking my watch while I'm being rogered.

5. Have you ever had an experience where someone couldn’t perform, finished too quickly or couldn’t keep up with you? Tell us about it?
That happens, but rarely....and quite frankly I don't see it as a big deal.  I choose to look at it positively - how can you be put out when someone's so excited to be with you that they've lost control?  I think if it were a regular occurance I might struggle more with it, however there are many ways to get someone off, so as long as he recognizes that he's left me hanging and helps looks after me after the fact, it's all good.

6. If you could only have one “type” of sexual encounter for the rest of your life, would you prefer
a) short and sweet
b) wham bam thank you ma’am
c) here for the long haul
d) slow and tender
Trying to decipher what these mean!  lol  Short and sweet - there's definitely times when a quickie hits the spot.  Does wham bam thank you ma'am mean rough sex?  If so, I'm in!  Here for the long haul - I assume this means a longer encounter.  Those are common if L's been drinking.  Slow and tender - there are times, though rare, when this is just what I need.  Overall, given my perceptions of what these mean, I'd go for the intense and rougher sex, so I'll say (b)!

Bonus: Would you consider ending an otherwise healthy and loving relationship if the sex wasn’t what you wanted?
In my first year with L, I probably had more sex than I did in my last 15 years of marriage.  In my experience, I think that without that sexual connection between two people and no other efforts made to meet needs, other feelings of intimacy fade and a relationship that you may have once considered loving can become something much more distant and irrelevant.  I do strongly feel though that it all depends on the people involved and the reason for the lack of sex.  I'm sure that it's possible for a couple to remain devoted to each other and do other things to maintain that intimacy between them - take the time to recognize the needs of the other, do things with and for each other and make an effort to support each other and be understanding about the reasons for the lack of sex - such a relationship might be able to endure.  So I think as much as I love sex, if the relationship was everything I wanted it to be, except for the sex, I might be inclined to stay. 

L's NPOTW - We Get Knotty in the Pines

Lovely autumn hike through the woods today with V.  The almost bare trees make it easier to tie her up, only I had no rope with me.  No matter - I just used her shirt.  The cool breeze gave her

goosebumps everywhere as I had my way with her erect nipples.

 

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TMI Tuesday - 10/23

Then And Now

Thank you to the TMI Tuesday reader who submitted the following THEN AND NOW questions. He wanted to remain anonymous.

1. What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 17 year old you?
The 17 year old me was still a virgin.  Although she was always a very sensual and sexual person, I think she was not very worldly and a lot of things might surprise her.  A lot of men wanted her (with various intentions - sex, marriage, etc.) and she in turn understood the effect she had on men, though she was not bold enough to use it to her advantage.  I think though that since she would have had no exposure whatsoever to a BDSM lifestyle or the types of sexual acts categorized under that heading, that she might certainly be surprised to imagine that the future her would find that lifestyle so enjoyable, though in retrospect, it almost seems like a natural progression.

2. What one thing might shock that younger you?
I think the younger me might be shocked that I had the temerity to go and get a VCH piercing.

3. What part of the younger you’s (not necessarily at age 17) sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia?
I don't think I view anything in the past with nostalgia sexually speaking.   Only at this current time in my life is my sex life approaching what I'd always hoped it could be.  I have had a more frequent and exciting sex life with L than I ever had in my marriage or in any of the short relationships I had leading up to it.  Not that I'm complaining at all, but my sex life with L is fantastic in quality, but could be even better with increased quantity.    It happens from time to time - days of opportunity where we can experience both quality and quantities that are more than satisfying.  Though rare, those times certainly stand out...Oh!  Perhaps those are the times I can look back on with nostalgia!  

4. Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?
Although the younger me failed horribly in the sexual ambitions category by marrying someone whose sex drive did not even come close to matching her own, I think I've fulfilled all of that young woman's fantasies and many more that she never knew she'd have. I wonder what she'd think of the fantasies I dream up now!

Bonus:  Give your 17 year old self a piece of sexual advice.
Don't marry a man whose sex drive does not match your own - it's not true that all men love sex or think about it all the time.  Some don't give it a moment's thought.  Ever.  Also, if you cannot be your true self in the bedroom without fear of judgement, then you have the wrong man.

L's NPOTW - Accessible

I had lunch with V a day this week and asked her to make sure she was accessible. When she arrived to pick me up, she wore a dress and this was my view in the passenger seat. I guess she wanted me to know she had honoured my request.

 

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L's NPOTW - LM Is A.....

Suckin' on the nipple
It's a sweeter than the ripple wine.
Yes its sweeter than the wine.

~Loudon Wainwright, from Rufus Is a Tit Man

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We said: MBE 2012

Crowd gathered around two scenes in progress

Once again, L and I had the opportunity to attend MBE - Morpheous' Bondage Extravaganza.  Even bigger and better than last year, it was truly an incredible showcase of all types of bondage.  We were able to watch at least 15 different scenes.  While it was apparent that there was a vast difference in the capabilities of the riggers, we still enjoyed ourselves and were amazed at some of the elaborate work.  Here are some descriptions and pictures of some of our favourite scenes:

A very tall, very lovely and very pregnant woman was being tied with a fabulous rope corset.  The rope corset was an amazing enhancement to her already-beautiful body.  The rigger, a man in jeans and a leather vest did an absolutely fantastic job - it was just stunning!  Unfortunately, flash photography was not permitted in the venue and the area they were working in was not well lit, so I was not successful in capturing a picture of suitable quality to share with you.

The Big 'O'

On a stage, a very well-dressed rigger, complete with mutton-chops tied his bunny's bent arms and legs, then slipping the rope under her squatting body and through her legs, he positioned a knot just so, bringing her to orgasm with just a few tugs of his rope.  I was absolutely fascinated with her facial expressions and took many pictures.  Her rapture was incredible to watch.

Like a bird!

In another area, another rigger did an inverted suspension that upon completion, rendered his bunny bird-like, body arched and her arms extended as though in flight.  It was very interesting to watch it take shape and I was fascinated.  The finished tie was very beautiful.

Twisted and spun while secured in the bamboo pyramid.

Yet another very elaborate scene used a pyramid constructed of bamboo poles.  I watched for a very long time while they secured the four corners of the pyramid...in fact it was taking so long that I walked away to view other scenes.  I was glad some time later that I had returned in time to be able to see the pyramid ready for use with the bunny now secured to the frame.  Tied to two of the poles, she held on tightly while the rigger strained to connect the pyramid to the suspension point, moving it upward gradually with the help of some caribiners and brute strength.  He succeeded of course, though with much effort and the suspended structure with the bunny inside was spun and twisted to great effect.

 Overall, the event was just an incredible showcase of talent - the amount of work that must have gone into making it happen is just mind boggling.  When we left The Great Hall after several hours in the venue, my ears were kind of numb from the super loud music - that had made it a bit hard to chat in there, but we talked all the way home about all the different things we saw and liked.  Since we attended the event, we didn't get a chance to see the video feed that was going on, but we're hoping there will be a rebroadcast that we will be able to tap into and enjoy the scenes we were unable to catch and maybe even enjoy seeing our favourites again.

TMI Tuesday - 10/2

You Wear It Well

Gemma Jones! I'll have to check out your blog....anyone who spells favourite with a 'u' in there rocks, in my book!!  

1. What is your most favourite thing to wear that you have in your closet at the moment?

I don't own a lot of clothes, but that's by choice.  I am very particular about my clothes - I don't care much how much it costs, but it must fit well, be comfortable and be flattering and enhancing.  If that happens for $5 in the sale bin or for $150 in a boutique, that's fine either way. As a result of this peccadillo I love all my clothes, but I do have one top that's a special favourite.  It's perfect in every way.  It's loose and comfortable, yet still has a flattering shape to it.  It's just long enough, but not too long.  It's soft, simple, doesn't wrinkle and always looks good and it's my go-to top every single time I travel. It's my worry-free choice.

2. What is the one item of clothing that you have seen on one of your friends / workmates that you would steal for yourself if you had the chance?

I can't think of anything specific, but I will say that if there was something, it would probably be a pair of shoes.  Of all the things in my wardrobe, I have the most difficulty finding shoes that are comfortable, yet stylish.  Apparently to have "comfortable and stylish shoes" is oxymoronic.  I just think it's moronic that they're not easier to find. :)

3. What is the one thing that your partner wears that never fails to turn you on. Why does it turn you on so much?
L often wears khaki pants, but in between he wears black or brown Levi's.  They are more fitted and hug his ass like nothing else.  I often end up a step or two behind L - my short legs struggle sometimes to keep up with his pace when he's not paying attention to slowing down to accommodate me, and I secretly lust after him as I stare at that sweet little ass as he walks in front of me.  It makes me think about all kinds of naughty things.

4. What is the one thing you wear when you want to attract the attention of your partner or others?
Probably something low cut.  L is very clearly a breast man.  I have pretty large breasts (H cup!) which can sometimes attract a fair amount of attention in general.  Depending on the situation, it can be interesting.  I've had men staring at my cleavage with their mouths practically watering...but I've had the other extreme too.  I was in the US with L and an elderly gentleman in the hotel elevator made his disapproval of my peekaboo top so apparent that I felt horribly uncomfortable and embarrassed and ended up going back to the room to change.  L thought it was funny.

5. When you want to feel sexy what do you wear and why?

That's a bit of a chicken and egg question.  No doubt, some clothes make you feel sexy.  But then sometimes feeling sexy, you choose certain clothes.  For me, the former is more common than the latter.  Since I like to feel sexy all the time, I think I achieve that best by always having on lovely bras and matching panties.  No matter what I I'm wearing on top, it's a bit titillating (no pun intended) to know that I'm very nicely kitted out underneath.  

6. If you had unlimited funds but could only shop for one type of clothing (shoes, lingerie, fetish etc) what would it be?

Lingerie for sure.  I have a serious bra fetish.  I probably have 20 or more bras of all colours (<--see that...it has a 'u'!) with matching panties.  Despite the lingerie fetish, I'm not really a girly-girl and I'm not keen on frills and ribbons.  I do like lace, but I'm seriously hot for these at the moment.  They are sexy, unique and remind me of rope bondage and they look fabulous!

Bonus: Tell us about your favourite scenario, real or fantasy, that involves some kind of clothing or fetish wear.

Every summer there is a fetish boat cruise here.  L and I have talked about going for the last three years, but it has yet to work out.  Although we both own clothing items that could be termed "fetish wear" (having prepared for that day when we actually go on the cruise) we've never worn them, except for each other!

L's NPOTW - Breasts at Midnight

The glow of the monitor as reflected off of V's magnificent breasts.

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Morpheous’ Bondage Extravaganza 2012 is this Weekend!

On Saturday, September 29th, 2012 Morpheous’ Bondage Extravaganza returns to Toronto Canada with 12 hours of live bondage for you to enjoy. V and I attended last year and it was really cool, we are hoping to be able to make it this year. With over 90 rope enthusiasts performing awesome rope work MBE is the largest, open-to-the-public, erotic rope art event in the world. MBE runs from 7:03pm to 7:03am EST.

If you can't make it to Toronto MBE will also be streamed live at www.MBE2012.com.

TMI Tuesday - 9/25

Celebrity Sex-a-thon!

1. Who is your closest celebrity look-alike? And, who do you think is sexier, you or the celeb?
I'm not really sure but according to http://celebrity.myheritage.com/FP/Company/try-face-recognition.php I'm a pretty good match for Elvis Costello. Of course I am sexier but the final arbiter will have to be Diana Krall.

2. Who is the hottest male AND female celebrity you can think of? And, if the opportunity presented itself would you have sex with them?
Reese Witherspoon is the female celebrity I have always lusted for. Hottest male, that's pretty hard for me since I'm not really that attracted to men. Let me get back to you.

3. What celebrity do you fantasize about, but wouldn’t admit it to your friends?
Kathy Najimy. What can I say, I've always had a thing for nuns even if I'm not Catholic.

4. Have you ever watched a leaked celebrity sex tape? Who was it or were they and what did you think? What would you have done differently if you were in the video with them?
Yes, the infamous Paris Hilton sex tape. Don't remember it well enough to comment on what I would do differently.

5. If you are in a relationship, is there anyone your partner knows that you have the ‘hots’ for and they give you the okay to be intimate with? Who would be there’s?
Can't really think of anyone off the top of my head.

6. If you could have dinner with anyone in the world, who would you choose and what would you give them for dessert?
It would have to be the Dalai Lama, dessert would be his choice. Get your mind out of the gutter!

Bonus: If you were offered the million dollar indecent proposal, what would your answer be and why?
A million is a lot of money, it would be really hard to say no.

In case you haven't figured it out yet V is not a big celebrity person so she has passed this one to the Libidinous Man to answer as I watch way more TV than she does.

L's NPOTW - Sun and Sand in September

Sandy toes and salty kisses

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TMI Tuesday - 9/18

Strip for me, I’ll strip for you

1. Have you ever danced naked in front of anyone? What prompted the experience?
I don't believe I ever have.  I've danced in front of L wearing a skimpy costume, but not naked, I don't think.  What prompted the experience?  I was taking a dance class and I had him play the music and showed him my moves prior to the stage show I danced in.

2. Have you been to a strip club? Was it what you expected?
I've never been to a strip club, but would be interested in seeing what it's like, for sure.

3. Have you ever been to an “amateur night” at a strip club?
See #2.

4. Do you think strip clubs are exploitative or are they misunderstood as simple adult entertainment venues?
I think people work there by choice, not under duress.  They  may work there because they feel that the alternatives are not tolerable, but there is always a choice, so I don't think they being exploited at all.  I personally feel they are just another form of entertainment.

5. Would you ever consider stripping to pay for college or other expenses?
It's laughable to imagine I could command any sort of salary from stripping - not only do I not have the body of a stripper, but I am also quite shy.  Though I do perform (in a musical sense!) in front of large audiences quite a bit, I'm always part of a group and never naked, so I can't consider it the same thing!

6. Have you ever given your partner a private dance?
No, I don't believe I have. 

7. Would you ever perform a lap dance for a complete stranger?
Unless I was seriously liquored up or something...which is unlikely..I doubt this is something I'd ever venture to do. 

8. Showgirls, Strip Tease, Magic Mike … What is the sexy Hollywood stripper scene you have ever YouTubed?
I'm not a movie watcher and in the few movies I've seen over the years, I can't recall any stripper scenes, memorable or otherwise.  I do recall, when hearing others talking about movies in open company, being very surprised that "Blow" and "Snatch" were not porn titles!  Good thing I'm quiet.  ;)

Bonus: Do you have a stripper fantasy, that given the chance of not being found out, you would turn into a reality?
When I was young (around puberty) and struggling with all those new hormones and my sexuality, I remember expressing a desire to become a stripper when someone asked.  That was a conversation stopper, let me tell you!  My poor mother.  Anyhow, I don't think I really have a stripper fantasy as such, but it's possible I might have a bit of a fantasy to strip or give a lapdance to my partner.  I've taken a little class and have the moves down pat, but have never worked up the nerve to actually do it, partially because I don't think there's much interest there and partially because even though I know he'd never laugh at me, I'm still very self-conscious about the idea of it.  I may feel sexy, but I am well aware that feeling sexy and looking sexy are two different things, so I doubt it will ever become a reality.

L's NPOTW -

 "It is only her in large portions of Canada that wonderous second wind, 

the Indian summer, attains its amplitude and heavenly perfection, -- the 

temperatures; the sunny haze; the mellow, rich delicate, almost 

flavoured air: Enough to live -- enough to merely be."

-   Walt Whitman, Diary in Canada

*click*

It started out as a picnic, but turned into so much more.  After a few days of cooler weather came a few days of glorious sunshine and warmer temperatures.  At this time of year, you never know when your last lunch outdoors will be - only the knowledge that there won't be many left.  Can you blame us for taking advantage?

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TMI Tuesday - 9/11

The Big O

This week’s theme “Orgasms” and the questions are brought to you by Naughty Tashamber.

1 – Do you remember your first orgasm? How old were you? Tell us about it.
I don't specifically remember my very first orgasm, but I do know that I have a distinct memory of masturbating to orgasm at around age six, though I didn't understand what it was, just that it 'felt good'.  I think my mom was traumatized.

2 – What is your favorite way to orgasm? (Sex, g-spot/p-spot, oral, etc).
I most enjoy orgasming during sex.  I find orgasms far more fulfilling when shared with a lover.

3 – Are there any ways you want to experience an orgasm but haven’t yet? (oral, p-spot/g-spot, with or without a vibrator, squirt, etc).
I'm pretty sure I've hit every applicable highlight here.  I guess I should pack up and move on....NOT!

4 – Have you ever had an orgasm in your sleep?
I have woken up from a sexy dream writhing and so heavily stimulated that just the lightest touch sent me over the edge, but I don't think I've orgasmed in my sleep.

5 – What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm?
For me, I think a vibrator has the fastest results, but not necessarily the most satisfying results.

6 – How many times a week do you try to reach orgasm?
I normally have 3-4 per week, but that depends on the situation.  I don't masturbate very often, preferring to eschew orgasms until those times I am with my lover.

7 – Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally cums first?
L and I have orgasmed at the same time many times, but it's more usual for me to cum first, followed by him...though it sometimes also happens the other way round where I encourage him to go ahead without me, knowing that I'm close and his climax is going to send me over the edge!  

8 – Can you have multiples?
Yes, it's possible for me - just depends on the day.  It's not unusual for me to cum two or three times during an encounter with L.  I'm sure if we had no time restrictions, that number might be higher.

9 – How long does it normally take you to reach orgasm?
Again, it depends.  Sometimes we're rushed or a bit distracted and no matter how I try to be present, I just can't get there.  Often it can take as much as 20 minutes and other times L has brought me to orgasm in less than 2 minutes. 

10 – Have you ever faked one?
I have faked it once or twice in the past, but it's not very honest.  I really cannot see any benefit to faking it unless you're having a day when it's not going to happen, but your partner has decided he's not moving on until you cum! 

With L I have never faked it.  A lot of the things we do are heavily based on trust and if he cannot trust my honest reactions, then it makes the actions less enjoyable for him, since he'd be always worried I was not being forthcoming.  I prefer to be up front with my partner - sometimes it's just not happening and that's okay.  It doesn't mean I'm not enjoying the journey or am adverse to being the conduit to his pleasure.  That in itself gives me pleasure.

L's NPOTW

The piercing pic didn't meet my quality standards so this week we'll move around to the back door. 

Naughty enough for you?

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TMI Tuesday - 9/4

Familiarity

This week’s TMI Tuesday questions come from the wacky, inventive, and sexually creative mind of the late phoenix.

1. We are all incurable sex addicts, but name one thing—a job, a passion, a creative outlet, a collection—of yours you use as a replacement, a distraction from constantly thinking about sex 24/7.
I have a very busy life, so I don't think there is any one thing...it's a combination of many things.  I work, sometimes I travel for work, I have a household to maintain, people to feed, I have children, elderly parents, siblings and nieces and nephews that all turn to me for help constantly.  I also play in a couple bands as a hobby. It's a wonder I find time to think about sex at all, but yes, I do...and often.  I even dream about it.

2. Have you ever loved somebody so much you thought having sex with them would actually sully the pristine purity of that love?
Never.  It's true that sometimes sex is just sex, but when you find a person that you love to that extent, sex can be the embodiment of that love.  I would have to have sex with anyone I loved that much - it is, to me, the ultimate expression of that love.

3. If you could make love to yourself, would you? Describe this experience in full detail.
No...I'm definitely not my type.

4. Cum, are you a fan? Explain and expound.
Not all cum is created equal - I think it has a lot to do with ones' diet.  Until L, I had never swallowed anyone's cum before, much less had it in my mouth, but I found I enjoyed it.  It has a very pleasant taste.  I will often beg him to come on me, just because the thought of his cum on me - rubbed into my skin - is a big turn-on for me.  I also love it when he comes in me - more often than not, I can actually feel his hot release inside of me.  So I'd say overall I'm definitely a big fan of L's cum.  I'm not sure I could make that statement about anyone else's (thinking about past partners) but to be fair neither is it within my realm of experience.

5. Does it creep you out to know that God is watching you as you’re fucking?  
Well, it didn't until you mentioned it....

Bonus: Tell us something sexy that happened to you this week.
Oh wow....lots of sexy things happened this week!  I got a new jewel for my VCH piercing; I was fucked in the mouth, pussy and ass in a 2 hour sexapalooza after not seeing L for just over two weeks; we had a little private picnic with wine, cheese, crackers and fruit and we both attended an event (where the perception is that we are barely acquainted) and L broke protocol and ran his hand along my thigh which distracted me to the point where I lost my train of thought in the middle of a conversation.  A very sexy week!

We said: Afternoon Delight

It’s been a busy summer for us both.  We’ve been able to fit in some great times in between our regular meet ups – a camping day, beach day and a hike in the woods to name just a few.

We recently had a weekend day where, for once, we had no other family plans….we'd be able to spend a little more time together and not just be fitting in a short meet up between other obligations.  The problem with that is that there are so many things we could do with a little more time, it's hard to choose what to do with the time when we get it.  We still had some pot left and I suggested to L that we smoke some.  L was certain that there would have been a marked decline in its efficacy since we’d had it around for so long, so I suggested we try it and see - and if he really thought its potency so greatly reduced, then he should make the joint larger than usual.  I arrived just as he finished rolling a big fatty and I left my stuff in his office and we headed outside to smoke it.

I only took three or four good drags, so L had the bulk of it.  The last one I took sent me into a serious coughing fit and I had to decline any more.  As we went back inside, I asked what he thought of the potency and he thought he felt "just a bit" high.  We went back inside and set up in our favourite spot.  L had forgotten to bring our blanket, but had found a suitable alternative.  Being much, much larger than our blanket, I joked that it was a treat to have a king sized “bed” instead of just a double for a change.  We laughed, got undressed and lay down together.

We embraced and just lay together for quite a while, silently caressing and connecting, kissing every now and again.  He reached over and touched my leg, gesturing that I should open for him. I did and he quickly found my wetness and started fingering me.  First one finger...then two.  Still lying beside me, he didn't have the reach to penetrate me too deeply, but it felt good nonetheless.  By the time he had several fingers in use, I started to feel his cock growing hard against my thigh and I reached down and took it in my hand to help him along. As my hand ran over the head of his cock, I felt the wetness of pre-cum.  My favourite! It crossed my mind to sit up and suck his cock, but before I could do so, I was taken aback to find my hand full of wetness.  Did he just cum in my hand?  I said nothing…we had all afternoon and there was plenty of time for recovery…but to my surprise, moments later he rose and settled himself between my legs, slid into me and started to fuck me.

It seemed to me that L was having a real struggle.  He’d slide into me once, then pause.  Twice more, then stop.  Another stroke, grinding his cock hard into me…a look of intense concentration on his face.  I assumed he was trying very hard not to cum.  Though my mind understood this, my body struggled with patience as I wriggled beneath him, desperate for more - each time he stopped felt like torture.  After a couple repeats of this, he seemed to get by the difficulty and started fucking me with abandon.  Fucking while under the influence is not necessarily better, but certainly is different.  I find that I am more keenly aware of every touch, stroke and sensation.  In no time at all, I exploded in the most delicious orgasm and L was close behind.

We lay there, still connected for a while, but L’s erection did not subside, as would often be the case, so he just resumed fucking me.  I reached down between us and with my thumb resting on my piercing, I separated my fingers so that my index and middle fingers rested one on either side of his cock.  As he slid in and out of me, the sides of my fingers rubbed along the length of him.  That wasn't the first time I've done that - I sometimes like to touch and feel his cock with my hand as he fucks me.  I wondered if it made any difference to him - did that feel good to him?  Did it enhance the feeling for him? Or was it distracting?  I had never asked. He has never complained. After a longer session, he came again.

He pulled out and lay beside me.  We snuggled for a few moments and I think we dozed off for a bit.  He woke shortly after to see me intently staring at him.  He looked at me questioningly and I said I was deciding whether his eyebrows needed trimming.  He suggested that they were fine, but that he didn't want me near him with a sharp implement at the moment anyway.  I laughed and said I was fine and not stoned, but then made some other comment that had me giggling away and he said with a grin, "You are not fine!"

We were soon back at it again.  I offered to ride him, but since L didn't want me to over exert myself (I think L mentioned a while back that I've been ill lately - unfortunately, I continue to struggle with a profound lack of energy), I once again lay back and he took charge.  When he was done, I felt thoroughly used (but in the best possible way).  As he pulled away, I had a sudden urge and I blurted out, "Can I suck your cock?"  We both started laughing right away, not because of what I said, but how I had blurted it out so earnestly.  I sat up as he lay down beside me and I sucked his still turgid cock, the taste of both of us tantalizing my tongue.  At one point, I wanted to climb on top and ride that cock, but after three rounds, not only was I a bit tired, but I also thought I'd better take pity on the poor man and not overdo it.  

I moved up beside him and he decided to check his phone to see how we were doing for time.  We were both shocked to see the time.  We felt like hours had elapsed.  We had gone at least three rounds with little pause in between, had a snooze and cuddled and we had been there for only one hour!  In fact, we grabbed my phone to double check the time, we were so full of disbelief.  Both completely spent, we spent the remainder of our time together watching a movie and having a snack.

When the movie finished, we cleaned up, got dressed and packed up.  We kissed and went our separate ways.  I felt wonderfully sated and decidedly lethargic.  Tired, but a good tired.  Indeed, I curled up for a nap as soon as I got home.

L here - I am a terribly lazy blogger. V wrote this post weeks ago and asked me to go in and add my comments. I promptly forgot and a week later when she asked again I was suprised because I had thought she would have given up on me and went ahead and published. 

Now so much time has passed that whenever I think about the day all I can do is smile. A threefer in an hour while high... V's enthusiasm to give me dynamite blowjob... I guess there is only one thing I can do - roll a big fat joint, get V high and do it all again.

L's NPOTW

It's been a while since V's piercing has been fully healed and she wanted to get a 

nicer piece of jewelry.  If you give her some encouragement perhaps next 

week's picture will be her wearing it...

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TMI Tuesday - 8/28

Gettin’ Off

This week’s TMI Tuesday questions are about gettin’ off. When you need it, you just gotta get it anyway you can.  (For those who are innocent babies “IT” is sex)
1. Have you ever initiated a booty call?
By definition, a booty call is a phone call, text, email, etc. whose purpose is to arrange a meeting to have casual sex.  Based on that, I've never initiated or accepted a booty call.  There are times, however, when L or I have deviated from our norm and arranged for time together that day or the following day to fill a particularly urgent need that just won't wait until the next time we can get together.  We even call it "making a booty call". :)

2. Have you ever accepted a booty call?
See #1.

3. Ever had a “friend with benefits” relationship? How long did it last? Are you still friends or acquaintances with that person? Are you still having sex with that friend?
I have had an ongoing FWB relationship with someone for almost 30 years now. We live in different countries, so we don't see each other often and opportunity does not arise each time we meet, so it could be months or even years between encounters. In recent years, this has worked particularly well for me.  I am quite happy and satisfied in my relationship with L and don't feel the need to pursue others at this time - it's very strange that I have no qualms about cheating on my husband, but I won't "cheat" on L, even though he'd probably give me his blessing to do so if I asked.  During the years that I've been L's lover, I have visited or been visited by my FWB several times.  The few times opportunity arose, I've indicated to my friend that I have not been available for sex.     

4. Tell us about your best one-night stand, what made it so good?
There are two people I've had sex with just once.  The first I wouldn't consider a one-night stand - he was a co-worker that really liked me and hounded me incessantly, but I wasn't that into him.  In a moment of weakness/insanity, I caved.  The second I met and as a lonely woman who felt she had nothing to offer, I was easy prey when he said flattering things and that he wanted to fuck me.  The only good aspects about both situations was that I learned something new about myself both times. 

5. When was your last one-night stand?
It's been a number of years and I doubt it would happen again.

6. What’s the grimiest, dirtiest place that you’ve had sex?
I had to think long and hard about this question.  I really could not think of anyplace grimy and dirty where I've had sex.  I asked L to help me and he said, "Does in the butt count?"  lol  Gee, thanks lover.  Then I remembered a bit of a muddy occasion.  We wrote about it here.

Bonus: What’s the one random thing you wish your friends knew about you?
I'm a private, quiet and shy woman, so a lot of people don't see the 'real' me. Some have told me that when we met, they thought I was aloof and unapproachable.  Even those that know me better would use phrases like "good girl", "prim and proper" and "goody two-shoes" to describe me.  For some reason, in spite of being tattooed and pierced (though to be fair, mostly sub-rosa) and perenially horny, people always assume I'm very conservative and prudish when that couldn't be farther from the truth!

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