Tuesday, March 19, 2013

TMI Tuesday - 3/19

This week’s TMI Tuesday questions were created by an anonymous blogger and lurker. He has submitted four great sets of questions and this week’s theme– THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY– is no exception. Thank you Anonymous#1 :)

1. What made the best sex partner you’ve ever had so good?
He pays attention to my body and my reactions and takes the time to learn what I like and goes out of his way to make things special for me.  He's experimental and willing to try new things.  Sometimes, they are not the most comfortable things for him, but we talk about the concerns and work out in advance what the problem areas are and how we'll deal with them.  He is open and easy to talk to about anything at all that's on my mind and is never judgemental.  I do my best to reciprocate in all these areas and it fosters an incredible amount of trust and intimacy between us, which in turn makes for some incredibly fantastic sexual encounters.

2. What made the worst sex partner you’ve ever had so bad?
Wow...where to start?  He was a virgin with a very, very small penis (smallest I've ever since before or since).  Those things alone are not so bad, but there's more.  We had not known each other for very long and he was really doing everything possible to pressure me into bed.  I finally gave in when I should not have. There was no connection with him on my side, but clearly he was besotted, pledging his undying love to me and indicating he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me during the act. Completely turned off at this point, I was anxiously waiting for it to be over, which it soon was.  Then he threw up moments later.  Seriously, you can't make this stuff up, folks!

3. Who was the most physically attractive person you ever had sex with?
Including the young man mentioned in #2, all the men I've had sex with (that sounds like there have been hordes, but my number is pretty low - can be counted on one hand) are physically attractive to me in their own way.  Excluding the young man in #2, I have been lucky that they have all been better than average sexually.  They haven't always been exemplary human beings, however.

4. How was it?
See #3.

5. Who was the least physically attractive person you ever had sex with?
As mentioned in #3, all of the men I've had sex with have been physically attractive to me in one way or another.  I'm having trouble thinking of any of them as being the "least" attractive of the bunch.  To me, far more important than physical attraction is mental connection.  I think that even a generally unattractive man with whom I have a great connection would have qualities that I'd find physically attractive. There is always something that works for me in a big way or they wouldn't be in my bed in the first place.

6. Why did you do it?
I don't have sex with people because they are attractive, but rather because we have a special connection.  This is always (and yes, #2 was the only exception to this) what works for me.

7. How was it?
Sex is mostly mental, so if I'm present and connected to the person, then the sex will usually be pretty great!

Bonus: Describe a bad sexual experience you admit was your fault.
I can only think of two bad sexual experiences I've had.  One was definitely not my fault and I was completely not in control in that situation.  The other, which is far less "bad" was as described in #2 - I should never have caved.


Tuesday, February 19, 2013

TMI Tuesday - 2/18

Fill In The Blanks!

It’s TMI Tuesday time again. L did such a great job answering the TMI questions for me last week, I seriously considered giving him the job permanently...but I'd miss it too much.  Here goes!

Fill in the blanks.
1. I’m the type of person that likes to be dominated in bed.
2. If the sexiest person I know propositioned me for sex, I would say 'Of course, L!' .
3. The worst part about running when I am naked is the black eyes .
4. I regret my first anal experience.
5. The last sexual/kinky thing I expected to like was anal sex.
6. Recently, I blew someone.  :P
Bonus:   You have been kidnapped by lesbians and dragged into a lesbian orgy, what are you going to do?  Well, if you can't beat 'em, join 'em!  

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

TMI Tuesday - 2/12

Evidently V is out clubbing with her friends or some such because I got a garbled text message to the effect of "Can't do TMI this week, please be a dear and answer it for me".  So without further ado I shall answer as I think V might.


Fantasy & Role play
Valentine’s Day may be for lovers but everyday is for sexy, imaginative, fun, kinky people. Keeping your sex life exciting means switching it up a bit, and getting creative. One way to do that is to bring your fantasies to life with role-playing.
1. To spice things up in the bedroom, how adventurous are you willing to be? (select one)
a. I have never role-played before and will need a lot of instruction.
b. I have tested the waters, but never acted out anything scripted.
c. I have got my feet wet and want more!
d. Dive in head first – nothing is too deep.
d.d.d.d.d I am so much more than a double D and I have the wigs, outfits and bruises to prove it.
2. What scenario peaks your interest most? Why?
a. Romantic and sensual
b. Playful and fun
c. Kinky! I want it all.
c. You wouldn't believe some of the stuff in our mischief bag. Well actually you might you kinky people.
3. Which of these is closest to your ideal setting for a fantasy?
a. A brothel
b. A dungeon
c. A bedroom
d. A prison cell

b Dungeons have so many interesting possibilities.
4. Which of the following toys would be prominently featured in your fantasy? (select one)
a. Feathers and whipped cream
b. Handcuffs, panty hose, and a necktie
c. Whips and chains
d. Ice cubes and a cold beer

All of the above, well as long as you allow me to substitute a crop for a whip.
5. It is time to take your sexy self to fantasy island, which fantasy will you bring to life to rock your lover’s world?
a. The Sassy Sexy Jersey Whore - Gaudy, Flashy, Showy…totally Jersey!
b. Kinky Cook - It’s all about the spice! Heating things up in the kitchen.
c. Naughty Maid - Your feather duster will tickle more than just the dust on the shelves.
d. Doctor Love - Saving lives and breaking hearts but not before you administer a head-to-toe physical examination.
e. Frisky Fireman - A hose so long you can put out several of the hottest fires and leave a smoldering heap as proof of a job well done.
c Naughty Maid, L seemed to appreciate how I left everything spick and span.
Bonus:  Tell us about your craziest or wildest role-playing adventure.

I don't want to give too much away but it involved a white blouse, a plaid skirt, some lube and a desk.

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

TMI Tuesday - 2/5

The Erotic Home

I don't currently live in a household where sex flourishes, so it is never a consideration when buying anything, however I have no doubt that if I were living in a home with L, that even the pancake flipper would be purchased with sex in mind.  Between that knowledge and also having vacationed with him a number of times over the years, I think I'd have sufficient data to respond to these questions, keeping that scenario in mind.

1. When you bought your bed frame, did you evaluate it in terms of ropes, handcuffs, etc?
Yes!  The purchase of a bed frome would absolutely involve ensuring there were posts or some other means of tying off rope.  We've managed in beds with no posts by running rope from side to side under the bed or tying off to the feet, but posts make it so much easier!

2. Aside from beds, was sex ever a major consideration in choosing a piece of furniture?
On one of our vacations, there was a huge sofa in the living room, very deep and long enough that L was able to lie down comfortably (he is very tall!).  It was so wide we were able to snuggle down together watch tv.  I'm sure if it were in our own home, we'd probably use it for sex at some point. So I have to believe that other furniture items might be judged for their use also.  Table heights would be another consideration.

3. Have you ever had anyone else (friend, mom) say a piece of your furniture was inappropriate because it was clearly for sexual purposes?
No.  We'd really love to get some of that Liberator furniture, but that would be pretty hard to conceal.

4. Do you have a piece of furniture that has a stain caused by bodily fluids (baby vomit not included)?
No, but only because I'm meticulous about cleaning up after ourselves. :D

5. Do you have anything in your beside table you wouldn’t want your father or mother to know about?
Since that's where I keep my toys, yes.  I'd rather my children didn't find them either.

6. Do you own any exercise equipment that is useful for sex?
I have exercise equipment, but nothing that I could imagine using for sexual purposes.

7. Aside from your bedroom, what room do you have sex in most often?
The games room. 

8. Do you have any electronics (TV, stereo) etc in your bedroom that are on during sex?
No, but most often when we are in the games room, there is porn playing on the big screen tv!

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

TMI Tuesday - 1/29

Describe It

1. Describe your lover’s penis with a movie title.
The Magnificent Seven

2. Describe your pussy with a movie title.
Naked Harbor

3. Describe your last sexual encounter with a song title.
Fuck Her Gently by Tenacious D

4. Describe your body with a song title.
I couldn't think of one, so I consulted L.  Immediately he said, "Hot Chocolate". I laughed and said I was pretty sure they were a band, not a song.  L then suggested I use their song, "You Sexy Thing".

5. Describe your sexual appetite with a book, song, or movie title.
Light My Fire by The Doors fits, I think.  I may not always have sex on the brain, but it doesn't take much to get me going.

Bonus: Recommend your favorite sexy, sensual or kink oriented book.
Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame by Lee Harrington.  L and I were fortunate to attend a workshop run by Lee and we had a fantastic time and learned a great deal.  We highly recommend any of his books - and there are several.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

TMI Tuesday - 1/22

I just realized that this post, although set to auto post, did not!  Posting now...a week late, but better late than never!
Thanks to an anonymous TMI Tuesday fan and lurker for this week’s TMI Tuesday questions.
Complete each sentence with an anecdote of sexual adventure or misadventure:
1. The first time I . . .
The first time I had sex with L, it was my birthday.  We had been chatting online and clicked and then met and really clicked.  Unfortunately, I was obligated to go out to dinner with some friends and was becoming horribly pressed for time AND on my period to boot, so I had to leave before I jumped him in the back seat of my car!  The next available time to get together happened to be my birthday.  We met this time at his office after hours.  He led me into a conference room where he had snacks laid out - cheese and veggies and dip - as well as a bottle of champagne.  Now I'm old enough to not much care about birthdays, but I have to admit that I was delighted that he had gone through the trouble.  We snacked, drank and then next thing I knew, I was laid out.  I went home sporting a hickey and I had no idea.  The whole story can be read here.
2. The last time I . . .
...had sex with my husband was 7 years ago.  In the first year L and I were together, I'm fairly positive I had sex more times that my entire 25+ years of marriage.
3. The only time I . . .

...think of sex is when I'm breathing.

4. My best . . .
...sexual encounter with L (to date!) happened just a few months ago.  We were in a hotel, so things were a bit more relaxed and unhurried, not having to watch the time or worry about privacy.  There are a number of things that push my sexual buttons.  I've written about many of them - being restrained, having my neck ravished, being surrounded and overpowered by him to name a few.  This particular sexual encounter involved the spontaneous occurrence of so many of these button-pressing moments at once that I virtually exploded.  It was just sublime.
5. My worst . . .
...experience with L happened when we were caught in a compromising position - by the police.  We had carpooled to an event and when I stopped in a small parking lot to drop L to his car, one thing led to another.  L was supposed to be keeping lookout, but he certainly didn't express any urgency when he said a car pulled into the lot.  It was only when he said someone was getting out of the car and heading over to my vehicle that I became alarmed.  Long story short, we were spoken to and were both horribly embarrassed by the incident.  In retrospect, I was also a bit annoyed by the cop's comment, "...and you're not even young people!"  Bite me, asshole!
BONUS: Everyone, however much experienced, still has some unfulfilled desires. What is at the top of your yet-to-do list?
Well, that would probably be dabbling in consensual non-consent and playing out a (play) rape scene.  To be very clear, I don't condone (real) rape nor wish to minimize the horrible impact it has on those unfortunate to have experienced it.  I explained it at length in a TMI question about fantasies not too very long ago, so I'll choose something else for the purpose of not being repetitive.  Well, actually, I suppose this ties in with the consensual non-consent, in a different way.   I've long held a fantasy - and I'm not even sure if I've ever mentioned this one to him - of L immobilizing me with his rope and having his way with me.  Just being tied up and opened up for his use in whatever way he pleases.  Are you reading, Sweetie? :)

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

TMI Tuesday - 1/15

You ought to be in pictures

A bunch of celebrity sex tapes have been made public through fair means or foul. Have you seen any of these? Which ones?
Pamela Anderson and Bret Michaels
Paris Hilton and Rick Solomon
Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee
Kim Kardashian and Ray-J
Kendra Wilkinson and Justin Frye
I've seen none of these!
Today’s TMI Tuesday topic is sex photography and video.
1. Did you ever pose for pictures in sexual situations, or take pictures of a lover?
Until I met L, I had never done this before.  We have taken many hundreds of pictures of each other in sexual situations...and a very small number of each other (or together), but not in sexual situations.
2. Did you keep these pictures private between yourselves, or did others see them?
The large majority of those pictures are kept in private between the two of us.  A (relatively) small number of them have been published on our blog for HNT and Naughty Picture of the Week features.
3. Did any of them ever get out in public with embarrassing results?
While we are aware that a couple people that know us read our blog (and don't realize it's us they're reading about!), as far as we know, we've never had any blog pictures recognized.  We've also never had our private stash get out in public.
4. Were you ever videotaped having sex?
Yes!  L's friend visiting from England took a video of L and I having sex.  It's quite a lovely video, I must say.
5. If so, was the tape ever made public?
No.  Obviously in this day and age there is no actual "tape", but our video has not been made public, with the exception of a single frame that we posted as an HNT quite a long time ago.  It was rather a daring thing to post and we've since retired that image, just to keep things safe.
6. Were you ever photographed or taped without your knowledge?
I don't think I've ever been photographed or videoed without my knowledge, no.
Bonus: Post a picture of a body part.
This week’s TMI Tuesday was written by Virtualsin.wordpress.com